The Mel Robbins Podcast

The Science of Gratitude & 6 Surprising Ways You’re Getting It Wrong

<p>Today we are digging into the research on gratitude. Gratitude is a critical life skill, yet most of us are practicing it wrong.</p><p> </p><p>That’s right.</p><p> </p><p>According to the research, there are 4 essential elements of genuine gratitude. Without all 4, you can’t unlock the powerful physiological, neurological, and psychological benefits of genuine gratitude.</p><p> </p><p>For example, if you’re just thinking about what you’re grateful for or writing a list before you go to bed, you’re probably not getting the full impact of its power.</p><p> </p><p>Once you know the 4 steps, you can use genuine gratitude to actively rewire your brain!</p><p> </p><p>Next, we’ll discuss the “Toxic Gratitude Theory” and the 6 ways you probably use gratitude in a backhanded or manipulative way – and don’t even know it!</p><p> </p><p>I’m guilty of all 6 types of toxic gratitude (ouch) and now that I see it, I can stop doing it.</p><p> </p><p>So today, let’s learn how to unlock gratitude and all its profound power. You’ll also learn…</p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>The 4 neurotransmitters involved in a science-backed gratitude practice</li><li>The important difference between being just “thankful” versus genuinely “grateful” and why it matters</li><li>How using one specific word is critical to building up your resilience</li><li>What to say to someone who’s going through a really tough time</li></ul><p> </p><p>And because I’m so genuinely grateful for you, I have started rolling out a fun bonus with each episode, <i>Mel Robbins Podcast Bloopers,</i> so listen all the way through for a good laugh!</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>6:00: Ever met someone who just makes you feel so loved and grounded?</li><li>12:20: What happens in your body when you feel more gratitude?</li><li>16:00: What’s the difference between being thankful vs. gratitude?</li><li>21:40: Here are the four important elements of genuine gratitude.</li><li>25:00: Are you using gratitude in a toxic way? Hear these six types of toxic gratitude.</li><li>26:00: Let’s unpack the #1 way we engage in toxic gratitude.</li><li>28:10: The #2 type of toxic gratitude is actually resentment in disguise.</li><li>29:45: This #3 type will keep you stuck in what’s not working for you.</li><li>33:00: We use the 4th type of toxic gratitude to escape uncomfortable emotions.</li><li>36:00: Being mentally well means giving yourself the space to feel all emotions.</li><li>37:30: Let’s unpack how you use the 5th type when you don’t know what to say.</li><li>39:00: And please don’t use this type to downplay your accomplishments.</li><li>41:00: This is one of my favorite acceptance speeches ever.</li><li>43:00: I looked up the meaning of Judah’s name and couldn’t believe what I found.</li><li>46:00: So how do you stay grounded in a chaotic environment? Listen to these tips.</li></ul><p> </p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How a Waitress at Denny’s Built a Billion Dollar Beauty Brand: This Incredible Story Will Unlock Your Purpose!

<p>If you’ve ever dreamt of doing something big, today's episode will get your head spinning, open your heart, and inspire you to take the leap.</p><p> </p><p>It doesn’t matter how young or how old you are.</p><p> </p><p>You are meant to go big, to swing for the fence, and to do something no one has ever done before. </p><p> </p><p>No more small plans. You have something big to do.</p><p> </p><p>And there’s no better person to inspire you to make big plans than my friend and IT Cosmetics Founder, Jamie Kern Lima. </p><p> </p><p>Jamie went from serving up stacks of pancakes at Denny’s to creating a product that would help millions of women around the world feel confident in their own skin. </p><p> </p><p>Today you’ll hear the story of how she transformed the beauty industry, created the most successful product launch in QVC history, and ultimately sold IT Cosmetics to L’Oreal for 1.2 billion dollars (becoming the first female CEO at L’Oreal in their history). </p><p> </p><p>If you think Jamie had it easy on the way there, you’d be wrong. And you won’t have an easy time either, but so what?</p><p>Her story is a rollercoaster of rejection and disappointment, fear, self-doubt, and near bankruptcy.</p><p> </p><p>But when you’ve got big plans, you just keep going. Jamie never lost faith, and today she is teaching you how to never give up on your big plans either.</p><p> </p><p> </p><p>In today’s episode, you will learn </p><ul><li>What to do when you have no idea what you’re doing.</li><li>Why it’s okay to do something that’s been done plenty of times.</li><li>What it’s like to pitch live on QVC.</li><li>How to handle someone saying “Women won’t buy from someone who looks like you.”</li><li>How to believe in yourself when nobody else does.</li><li>A truth about success we rarely ever hear about.</li><li>What to do when QVC says “NO you can’t sell that way.”</li><li>How to react when some idiot tells you they won’t invest in you.</li><li>How to break into an industry event and pitch your idea.</li><li>How to harness belief in yourself when you want to give up.</li></ul><p>Wow. Just wow.</p><p> </p><p>If you don’t know what to get the graduates in your life, send this episode because it’s a real gift. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>4:50: Introducing today’s guest- my good friend, Jamie Kern Lima.</li><li>7:30: Jamie learned this important skill while working as a server at Denny’s.</li><li>9:00: Never disregard the seasons of your life that feel setbacks.</li><li>10:00: What the hell does it mean that our lives are happening “for” us?</li><li>10:45: Here’s how Jamie defines life’s purpose. </li><li>13:15: If you hate your job, listen to this.</li><li>16:50: The moment where Jamie knew she was meant to do something meaningful.</li><li>20:15: Not sure what your purpose is? Think about what you struggle with.</li><li>24:00: This is the biggest reason we talk ourselves out of following our dreams.</li><li>27:30: But how do you get started when you don’t even know what to do?</li><li>32:00: Ever had a gut feeling? Hear Jamie define intuition and how to tune in.</li><li>35:30: Try going through your day this way and build your intuition muscle.</li><li>37:20: Two reasons why we go through horrible, unspeakable times.</li><li>38:30: This was the biggest rejection moment that inspired Jamie to keep going.</li><li>41:15: Listen to the “no” or listen to the “knowing.” You get to choose.</li><li>44:30: How do you determine the NEXT right step?</li><li>46:45: Jamie lands a ten-minute do-or-die spot on QVC after multiple rejections.</li><li>57:00: Here’s how all that rejection became Jamie’s strength.</li><li>1:02:00: Does your purpose have to be part of your job?</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Giving Up Is Not an Option: The Motivation You Need to Hear Right Now

<p>This is a message for every new graduate.</p><p>Whether you’re graduating from college or graduating from a chapter in your life, you need this message today. Your dreams matter, and what happens next is in your hands.</p><p>You have a flame inside you that represents the way you were meant to show up in this world.</p><p>Today I’m teaching you how to throw gasoline on that flame.</p><p>No matter what you're going through in life, your dreams are alive and well, and they are waiting for you to wake up and turn toward them.</p><p>If you’re not ready for some Mel Robbins inspirational firepower, bookmark this for another day. Because I’m not f’ing around today.</p><p>Whether you’re ready to make your mark on the world...</p><p>Or you’re tired of your excuses...</p><p>Or if you're like Barbara, who you'll meet in this episode, and you've given up on your dreams because they haven’t materialized yet…</p><p>This may be the most important 50 minutes of your life.</p><p>I’m going to show you</p><p> -the three ways you shut down your dreams</p><p>-why jealousy is actually a good thing</p><p>-the one question to ask in the morning that will impact the entire rest of your day</p><p>And if you don’t even remember what it’s like to dream, I’ve got you.</p><p>This episode includes a free download of an incredibly powerful, science-backed tool that will help you start dreaming again.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><p> </p><ul><li>3:30: These are the moments that define your life.</li><li>9:15: Here’s what happens before every time I reinvent myself and my life.</li><li>10:50: My first dream job never left me and eventually led to this podcast.</li><li>14:30: Watch for this evidence of your dreams still being alive in your heart.</li><li>18:15: The first way you extinguish your dreams.</li><li>18:30: The second way you pour a cold bucket of water on your dreams.</li><li>18:50: The third way you shut down your dreams.</li><li>21:45: The science-backed habit that’s going to help you start dreaming again.</li><li>22:40: Here’s a whole bunch of dream examples, if you need ideas!</li><li>24:45: What is the Zeigarnik Effect and what does it have to do with your dreams?</li><li>26:15: I have a free download for you!</li><li>29:30: Here’s where I gave Barbie some serious tough love because I believe in her.</li><li>34:30: The one powerful question you’re going to ask yourself every morning. </li><li>35:40 On this date, I finally gave myself permission to make my dream happen.</li><li>37:50: When times get challenging, you should be doing this.</li><li>40:15: Try this exercise to shine a light on the way you limit what’s possible for you.</li><li>47:00: All that hard stuff in your life is for a reason.</li><li>49:15: Think you’re too old for your dreams? Then you need to hear this.</li><li>51:45: Curious about what happened to Barbara? Listen in.</li></ul><p> </p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

3 Steps To Finding Your North Star: An Exciting New Approach To Designing Your Life

<p>Welcome to an exciting new masterclass on designing the life of your dreams.</p><p>First, you’ll learn the process for identifying your own North Star, why this is important at the beginning of creating your new life, and how to use your North Star to guide you in the process of designing your life.</p><p>Next, you’ll dive deep into the 3-part framework: Emulate, Assimilate, and Innovate.</p><p>This framework is the backbone of the University of Southern California’s world-renowned Popular Music major taught at their Thornton School of Music.</p><p>It’s the creative process artists use to create songs, movies, and video games. The framework has helped launch Grammy-winning artists and touring musicians for the past decade.</p><p>I just learned about it a week ago and was so blown away that I had to share it with you.</p><p>When an artist creates a song, they begin with a blank piece of paper.</p><p>When you design your life, you are an artist with a blank canvas.</p><p>Today, you’re invited to tap into the artist within and learn how to find your North Star and use the creative process to bring your vision for your future to life.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>3:00: Hear me describe the woman who recently became MY North Star.</li><li>6:40: Choosing this kind of person you want to choose as your North Star is best.</li><li>8:00: Shout out to Chris Sampson from the Thornton School of Music for these pillars.</li><li>10:15: If you skip Step One in this process, you’re making your life much harder.</li><li>14:15: Here’s how Jennifer Aniston made her way into our conversation. </li><li>18:10: We start unpacking what Step One of the process looks like, first with music.</li><li>21:00: Think of the space in between where you are and want to be as special. </li><li>22:15: Try using “want” instead of “need” when it comes to goals and see what happens.</li><li>25:20: This is what I did when I first started to dig myself out, but it took me much longer.</li><li>28:00: Here’s why this person is my North Star and why he puts a fire in my belly.</li><li>31:15: Let’s define the first two steps in this important process and how they’re different.</li><li>34:00: How do you know when you’re done and you’ve become your own North Star?</li><li>41:45: Kendall’s biggest takeaway from working through this process. </li><li>42:45: The way I sign out on all my podcasts was inspired by this woman.</li></ul><p> </p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About

<p>I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.</p><p>I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.</p><p>The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.</p><p>And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.</p><p>I can bottom line this in one sentence: </p><p>When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li>2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.</li><li>6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.</li><li>9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?</li><li>10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.</li><li>11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.</li><li>17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.</li><li>19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?</li><li>24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?</li><li>28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.</li><li>32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.</li><li>35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?</li><li>37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.</li><li>40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.</li><li>43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

6 Signs You’re Disconnected From Your Power and How to Get It Back: Life-Changing Advice From the Remarkable Dr. Thema Bryant

<p>If you feel that something’s missing from your life but have no idea exactly what’s missing or where to begin looking for it, today’s episode will help you reconnect with your power and find greater meaning in your life.</p><p>Dr. Thema Bryant is the current president of the American Psychological Association. She trained at both Duke and Harvard, published multiple best-selling books, and has dedicated decades of her life to researching how we connect with each other by first connecting back to ourselves.</p><p>Her work has been so profound for me personally that, right off the bat in this conversation, I get emotional.</p><p>Dr. Thema is a national treasure. Her presence and her voice will put you at ease. And she has the unique gift of weaving together psychological strategies for healing with the deeper spiritual cornerstones of faith and trusting in "that which cannot be explained."</p><p>In this episode, you’ll learn:</p><p>-6 signs that you are disconnected from yourself</p><p>-what it means to be "psychologically wandering"</p><p>-how to handle people in your life who are chronically irritable and angry</p><p>-the surprising signs of "irritable depression"</p><p>-the three words to say to yourself before you can begin healing</p><p>-why self-care is critical if you are in a toxic workplace (you are more than your labor)</p><p>-why you need to stop talking about your significant other and your boss in therapy.</p><p>-where to find therapy when you can’t afford it.</p><p>You are so much more than a highway for other people to get where they’re going. With Dr. Thema’s wisdom and tactics, you’ll reconnect with yourself and take the wheel on your own incredible journey in life.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>2:45: I got really emotional when I acknowledged how my life used to be.</li><li>6:30: 6 powerful signs that you are disconnected from yourself and what that means.</li><li>9:00: Even if you’ve never felt home with yourself, you can learn to be home with yourself.</li><li>11:00: The West African fable that gave me chills and should be required reading for everyone.</li><li>16:00: This is the first and most powerful step to your “homecoming.”</li><li>22:00: Do people with an attitude actually have depression?</li><li>25:20: What is healing, anyway?</li><li>27:00: How do we handle people in our lives who are irritable, frustrated, and angry?</li><li>30:00: It’s a big mistake if you wait for this before you start your own healing.</li><li>36:30: How to know if you need therapy or you need spirituality.</li><li>41:00: How do you heal from a lifetime of messaging that you’re not worthy?</li><li>44:00: This is how you handle working in a toxic work environment.</li><li>48:50: Look to these resources if you can’t afford therapy.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

4 Simple Ways to Stop Giving a Sh*t About What Other People Think of You

<p>Imagine how liberating it would be to not care about what other people think of you. You’d take more risks. You’d stop holding yourself back. You’d make more money and have more fun. </p><p>That’s what happened to me when I learned the (not-so-subtle) art of not giving a sh*t.</p><p>This is the best episode I've done so far.</p><p>I mean it. The best.</p><p>It’s hilarious. It’s relatable. It’s packed with takeaways and research. It’s entertaining and personal, and yet I still manage to empower you with 4 simple ways to stop caring about what other people think.</p><p>Want to know what life looks like when you don’t care?</p><p> I’ll go first.</p><p>You’ll hear some outrageous, not-safe-for-work stories about your friend, Mel.</p><p>And as you’re laughing at me, I’ll be laughing at me, too. One of the benefits of not caring about what other people think is that you don’t take yourself too seriously.</p><p>Why? Because you have much more important things to care about.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li>4:00: Hilarious story of me taking my shirt off at an LA restaurant.</li><li>8:30: Christine says you’re not supposed to show up to meetings this way.</li><li>14:30: Here’s why wearing ballet flats would have been a failure for me.</li><li>16:00: Christine’s profound point about judgment really opened my eyes.</li><li>19:00: When you stop worrying about how you look, others around you will too.</li><li>23:00: What I think about ugly troll comments so that I can rise above it.</li><li>27:00: If you’re part of a gossip loop, here’s what you need to do.</li><li>28:00: It’s not normal to wear a child-size space suit in front of your students?</li><li>34:00: Jessie could not stop laughing after I did this.</li><li>36:00: How can you give honest feedback and not sound like a jerk?</li><li>38:00: The wake-up moment for me around relationships.</li><li>38:30: My four rules about how not to give a sh*t about stupid stuff.</li><li>48:30: Kendall revealed something to me that I still can’t believe.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How To Help Anyone In Your Life Who’s Struggling - Fantastic Strategies From A Yale-Educated Psychologist

<p>I am thrilled to share this conversation with you. It is packed with practical strategies that will help the people in your life who may be struggling. </p><p> </p><p>Dr. Lisa Damour is a clinical psychologist and author of three <i>New York Times</i> bestsellers.  She earned degrees from both Yale and the University of Michigan and has more than 30 years of experience working with teens and families.</p><p> </p><p>Her latest book, <i>The Emotional Lives of Teenagers</i>, has been nothing short of life changing.</p><p> </p><p>Today you will learn…</p><p> </p><p>-five words you need to know when someone you love is struggling</p><p>-the signs that tell you when someone is “costly coping”</p><p>-what to say that will prevent a conversation from turning into a battle</p><p>-why your kids dump all their emotional garbage on you</p><p>-when it’s time for a therapist</p><p>-why struggles are signs of being “mentally WELL”!</p><p> </p><p>I started using Dr. Lisa’s strategies with my family the moment we finished recording this episode. They work! </p><p> </p><p>You will leave this episode full of the resources you deserve. Plus, you’re going to love Dr. Damour (and how hopeful she makes you feel) as much as I do. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p>And if you need to take the reins in your own life, sign up for my free <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control</a> mini-course to get inspiring support, guidance, and motivation.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>4:00: Two things psychologists look for when assessing mental health.</li><li>5:15: Too many people are not distinguishing between these qualities.</li><li>6:15: When exactly IS adolescence?</li><li>8:30: We’ve had the wrong idea about what it means to be mentally healthy.</li><li>12:45: What’s the difference between a “normal” reaction vs one to be concerned about?</li><li>15:10: Do you know someone who is managing by “costly coping.”</li><li>16:45: So how do you help your kid?</li><li>20:00: This is how you don’t turn a conversation with your child into a fight.</li><li>24:00: Take these steps when it’s time to confront your teen.</li><li>27:30: Here’s how I wish I’d handled Chris’s depression differently.</li><li>30:20: Let’s look at the difference in emotions between genders.</li><li>34:15: How do you help people in your life who just can’t let it go?</li><li>39:00: Do your kids do this, too? It’s called the “defense of externalization.”</li><li>41:40: This is how my own mother set me straight.</li><li>44:00: How do you know when it’s time to get a therapist involved?</li><li>46:30: Can’t find a therapist for your child? Use this resource.</li><li>48:00: Here’s how the lockdown impacted our kids. </li><li>54:30: When are suicide thoughts normal and when are they concerning?</li><li>58:00: What happened to our nervous system during this time?</li><li>1:00:00: These are the concerns of Dr. Damour that we should watch for.</li><li>1:01:30: When do healthy habits become an obsession?</li><li>1:08:15: How do you let kids have emotions without letting them run the home?</li><li>1:14:00: Here is the most important thing you can offer your teen.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Best Years of Your Life Are Ahead of You: A No BS Approach to Feeling Stuck

<p>You know <i>what</i> you want and <i>how</i> to start.</p><p> </p><p>But you never make progress.</p><p> </p><p>Here’s my wake up call for you today:</p><p> </p><p>What’s holding you back is never what you think.</p><p> </p><p>Today I am coaching a woman who says:</p><p> </p><p><i>I can’t make myself do what I need to do. I feel like I’m in quicksand. Every time I try to move…I sink<strong>.</strong></i></p><p> </p><p>She has:</p><p>-put on an extra 30 pounds</p><p>-left her relationship with herself in the gutter</p><p>-no longer does the things that make her happy</p><p>-broken promises to herself time and again</p><p> </p><p>I bet you can relate. </p><p> </p><p>This is a must-listen if you want to: </p><p> </p><p><i>be healthier…</i></p><p><i>go back to school..</i></p><p><i>find your dream home…</i></p><p><i>make new friends…</i></p><p><i>go for that promotion…</i></p><p><i>write a book…</i></p><p><i>land your dream job…</i></p><p> </p><p>But you just can’t make yourself take the actions you need to take.</p><p> </p><p>Stop frustrating yourself by trying to solve the wrong problem. </p><p> </p><p>Your dreams matter. </p><p> </p><p>Today you’re learning where to find the right solution.</p><p> </p><p>Pull up a seat for a conversation with a listener like you as we uncover what’s <i>really</i> holding her back. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>2:15: This metaphor will help you understand why you’re stuck.</li><li>6:00: I bet you can relate to Ricki’s story. </li><li>8:15: The bad news that made Ricki’s face drop.</li><li>11:30: Here’s why you don’t believe your life will get better.</li><li>13:30: What <i>happened</i> to you earlier in your life that broke you?</li><li>18:15: Maybe you resist a part of your life because it links to something painful.</li><li>21:30: When acute grief turns into chronic, underlying grief.</li><li>31:00: You can’t invite love, joy, and connection, if you’re closed to it.</li><li>33:15: I get where Ricki is, because I used to close myself off in the same way.</li><li>39:30: Here’s my assignment for Ricki that I know she needs to do.</li><li>41:00: Give yourself permission to be happy again by connecting to this.</li><li>45:00: Here’s why I truly believe the best years of your life are ahead.</li><li>46:30: Ricki recorded an incredible update for you and me.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

FBI Trained Expert Explains How to Read Body Language

<p>In this episode, you’re going to learn how to decode body language from one of the world’s leading experts on the topic.</p><p> </p><p>Janine Driver has been trained by the FBI, CIA, and one of the world’s top hostage negotiators.</p><p> </p><p>When a criminal case grabs our attention, every news network calls Janine to analyze body language and critical verbal cues that suspects, politicians, and celebrities are sending so we can tell when somebody is lying.</p><p> </p><p>If you love True Crime, you’re going to love this episode, because it’s a masterclass from an expert who’s spent over three decades decoding body language for law enforcement agencies around the country.</p><p> </p><p>She will teach you which hand gestures indicate that somebody may be lying, why you should grab your chin during a high-level meeting, why you should <i>never</i> shrug your shoulders if you want to be convincing, and the million-dollar question that you should ask at the end of every single interview.</p><p> </p><p>If you’re dating, you’ll learn all kinds of incredible tactics, like why you should <i>never </i>sit directly across from someone on a first date. </p><p> </p><p>This is an incredibly interesting, entertaining, and surprising take on how to build confidence and be smarter about the subconscious signals that other people are sending you all day long. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li>3:15: Janine’s early childhood trauma saved her life as a teen.</li><li>6:00: So how do you go from being a profiler with the FBI to a body language expert?</li><li>9:30: Which three groups of people can read body language really well?</li><li>10:00: The hand gesture that says “maybe” even when you’re hearing “yes.”</li><li>12:30: Listen for the word “left” when you hear it from someone else.</li><li>13:40: How Janine knew Casey Anthony was lying about her daughter’s death.</li><li>19:30: What’s your behavioral fingerprint? Here’s how to figure it out.</li><li>20:00: What is the best question to ask at the end of an interview?</li><li>21:15: How men state what they need versus how women do.</li><li>27:00: This is why a shoulder shrug might be a huge clue.</li><li>31:40: The power of eye contact, unpacked.</li><li>34:15: What the heck is lip locking and what does it mean when someone’s doing it?</li><li>36:15: When you’re trying to get the truth out of somebody, use the pause after “don’t”.</li><li>37:45: Do this to get your kids to tell you the truth.</li><li>42:30: Ever been interrupted by someone in a meeting? Here’s what you do!</li><li>47:15: Use this hack to look more confident. </li><li>48:00: Janine tells me what my pointy chin means.</li><li>48:45: Know the difference between Clark Kent and Superman, and you’re all set.</li><li>52:00: This is the BEST dating advice I’ve heard in a long time.</li><li>54:15: Here’s how detail-oriented people drink their water.</li><li>56:30: Next time you’re on a date or an email, tilt the coaster. </li><li>58:00: What if you don’t FEEL confident when you use these “non-verbals?”</li><li>1:02:00: Why belly buttons matter more than the eyes when reading someone.</li><li>1:04:00: Nervous on a date or an interview? This hack releases nervous energy.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Real Reason It’s Hard to Make Big Choices

<p>Last week, I learned a really cool trick to help you go with your gut.</p><p>I guarantee you’ve never heard gut decisions explained this way before. Because I stumbled upon it in a very random way—while touring colleges with our son Oakley!</p><p>We hit 5 schools in 4 days, and over the course of that time, it hit me. Holy smokes, that's the perfect hack for making big decisions.</p><p>You can use it anytime you feel torn, uncertain, or scared about how people might feel.</p><p>What you’re about to learn is so helpful and memorable, you’ll turn to it over and over again.</p><p>This is one of my favorite kinds of episodes, because I’m going to put you right at the scene—the moment I had the epiphany. I’ll give you all the hilarious details, and there’s even a part of the story where, I am embarrassed to say, I acted pretty cringe-worthy.</p><p>And that’s not all; as I was taping this episode, two friends chimed in with stories of their own.</p><p>So I asked them to jump on the mic and share them with you. Two stories about a moment in their lives that’s so relatable—when they ALMOST didn’t go with their gut and looking back, they’re thankful they did.</p><p>Because going with your gut always changes the trajectory of your life. It just does.</p><p>That’s why I don’t like the term "trust" your gut.</p><p>It’s not about trust. You KNOW your gut is right. You’re just scared to go with it.</p><p>So join me, Oakley, and two of my friends. I’m taking you on an entertaining and profound tour today.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>3:30: The moment of my junior year in high school that changed my future.</li><li>7:00: I am not proud of this mother moment when I lost it.</li><li>11:00: The question Oakley asked is what we all do when we give up our power.</li><li>14:15: Here’s what a hard no “feels” like for Oakley.</li><li>15:45: Do you feel a “yes” in your body like this too?</li><li>17:00: What our brilliant tour guide did when he separated parents from students.</li><li>20:30: When it comes to big decisions, step away and go on your own tour. </li><li>22:00: Here’s what a “no” and a “yes” usually feels like in your body. </li><li>24:00: You’re going to love Amy’s “next big thing” story and how she just knew.</li><li>31:00: We all have an opportunity in our lives to use this powerful tool.</li><li>33:00: And if it doesn’t work out the way you thought it would? Listen to this.</li><li>33:45: Do you have the courage to do this?</li><li>36:30: So what do you do when you hear the NO louder than the YES?</li><li>40:30: Jessie literally followed her heart and became her own “tour guide.”</li><li>42:30: Stop staying you don't “trust your gut” and start saying this instead.</li><li>43:00: Take time to do this EVERY day, but especially when you have a big decision.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How to Make Hard Choices: Practical Tips for When Sh*t Gets Real

<p>Oh…sometimes life is a real doozy.</p><p>You make all these plans, and boom. You step right into a pile of you-know-what. And then you realize that pile was there all along—you just missed it.</p><p>Which brings us to the topic of today’s episode: making hard decisions and moving on from hard relationships.</p><p>How do you move forward when… </p><p>You feel so torn about what to do.</p><p>You don’t trust yourself.</p><p>You’re scared to make the wrong decision.</p><p>What’s best for you will impact the people you love.</p><p>How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes? </p><p>How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment?</p><p>I’ll tell you how.</p><p>Pull up a seat and join me because you are going to love the listener, Katrina, who I’m coaching today. Her question was, "Should I stay or should I go?"</p><p>By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets.</p><p>Today, you’re getting strategies to help you</p><ul><li><i>Live your life with no regrets.</i></li><li><i>Keep your cool when you see your ex.</i></li><li><i>Bounce back after rejection.</i></li><li><i>Stop feeling guilty about following your dreams.</i></li><li><i>Make courageous decisions.</i></li></ul><p>The biggest takeaway? Knowing the difference between what’s right for you and the fear that’s keeping you from it</p><p>When something is right, even if it’s scary as hell to go for it, you’ll only ever regret not having tried.</p><p>Xo Mel</p><p>PS - If you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control</a> mini course here.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>2:20: Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate to what Katrina is going through.</li><li>4:00: The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain.</li><li>6:30: When you have a big decision to make, ask yourself this question.</li><li>8:15: Holding yourself back because you feel guilty? Listen to this.</li><li>11:00: The single biggest quality you want in any partner? It’s always this.</li><li>14:00: There are always red flags before a breakup, whether you saw them or not.</li><li>16:15: You deserve nothing less than these qualities from your partner.</li><li>19:00: Try role playing with a friend to help you get the closure you crave.</li><li>23:45: Use this strategy to help you make a weighty decision.</li><li>27:40: Takeaway #1: Stop running away. Think of it this way instead.</li><li>30:15: Takeaway #2: If you want closure, you have to do these two things.</li><li>30:30: Takeaway #3: If you’re going to hold yourself back, own it. Don’t blame others.</li><li>31:00: Takeaway #4: You’re making it much harder in your head.</li><li>32:00: Takeaway #5: As soon as somebody doesn’t want you, they’re not your person.</li><li>33:30: Takeaway #6: Please stop doing this after a breakup.</li><li>35:00: Takeaway #7: If it’s not love, it’s a lesson.</li><li>35:30: Takeaway #8: Don’t be caught off guard by preparing ahead of time.</li><li>37:00: Takeaway #9: You don’t need someone else to feel complete.</li><li>38:00: Takeaway #10: Don’t let your fears hold you back.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Are You an “Over” or “Under” Functioner? A Hilarious and Helpful Guide to YOUR Stress Style

<p>At some point, the you-know-what is going to hit the fan.</p><p>And it happened to me the other morning when I was driving my husband to his colonoscopy.</p><p>This is the first episode without a video version because I recorded it from my iPhone after dropping my husband off at the hospital.</p><p>I promised to take you into my life; I just didn't expect it to be as a stressful situation was unfolding in real time.</p><p>When it comes to dealing with stress, best-selling psychotherapist and researcher Harriet Lerner says that being an underfunctioner or an overfunctioner is your patterned response to dealing with the alarm in your body.</p><p>It probably doesn’t surprise you that I am what researchers call an "Overfunctioner." </p><p>My husband, Chris, is an "Underfunctioner," especially on those days when he’s on the way to a medical procedure.</p><p>And learning the way YOU react to stress is a game-changer for your relationships.</p><p>An overfunctioner like me allows the alarm in my body to take over in stressful situations, becoming triggered and anxious.</p><p>And the only way to calm the alarm is to bark orders, manage the phone calls, organize the activities, make the appointments, plan the meals, and take on all the responsibilities because it gives me a sense of control.</p><p>It may be my superpower, but it also makes me a royal pain in the a$$ and takes away the chance for Chris to feel empowered.</p><p>The way Chris deals with stress is more chill and very methodical, which frustrates the hell out of me.</p><p>Listen today as we work through these two different ways of dealing with a stressful family situation so that you can understand your own approach better and, more importantly, how to ask for what you need from others before you drive them nuts.</p><p>And if you’re ready to take the next right step to live your life with more confidence and no regrets, this is your time.</p><p>Sign up for my exclusive signature course, <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/launch" target="_blank">Launch with Mel Robbins</a>. It’s available for registration only through May 4, so grab your spot today!</p><p>Learn all the exciting details and<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/launch" target="_blank"> sign up here</a>!</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>3:00: Let me set the scene for you before everything started blowing up.</li><li>4:30: Here’s how I set myself up to fail the night before.</li><li>7:15: Then life kicks in big time and cue the mom guilt flood gates.</li><li>10:40: Here’s what overfunctioning stress looks like in real life. Can you relate?</li><li>14:30: If you don’t catch yourself in this state, your relationships pay the price.</li><li>23:00: Chris nails the good, the bad, and the ugly side of overfunctioning.</li><li>24:15: I thank Harriet Lerner for her research that helps me understand myself.</li><li>26:30: Here’s how my anxiety sees my husband’s “underfunctioning” response to stress.</li><li>28:30: And this is how Chris sees my “overfunctioning” response.</li><li>32:00: Have a partner who handles stress differently? Here’s how to support each other.</li><li>38:00: Chris explains what happens in HIS brain and body when he’s stressed.</li><li>42:30: Holy mackerel, I just realized I never stopped to do this in my stress episode.</li><li>46:00: This is a tool our couple’s therapist gave us that really helps us to see each other.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

You’ve Got Money All Wrong: A Step by Step Guide to Living a Rich Life

<p>You can be rich.</p><p>(Don’t roll your eyes at me; I’m serious.)</p><p>This is not what you think.</p><p>This episode today is so digestible. So counterintuitive. One of the most enlightening conversations I’ve had with anybody. </p><p>If I had a nickel for every epiphany I had during this episode, I’d be rich.</p><p>Most of us have been thinking about money all wrong.</p><p>It turns out that the amount of money you have in the bank (or don’t have in the bank) is only a small part of your relationship with money.</p><p>I didn’t realize this until I got to sit down with the incredible Ramit Sethi.</p><p>He’s a NYT best-selling author and finance advisor with a brand new, top-ranked Netflix series called How to Be Rich, where he coaches real people about how to take control of their financial lives.</p><p>He says you’ve been thinking about money all wrong. </p><p>This is one of my favorite conversations ever.</p><p>It changed the way I think about money.</p><p>If you were told that you need to create a budget and stick to it, Ramit calls BS.</p><p>Instead, you’ll learn about your money dials, the only four numbers that matter, the 85% Rule, why the 10 Year Bucket List is so important, the one thing you should NEVER say about yourself, and best of all, what it means to live a Rich Life.</p><p>Today’s episode is going to change the way you SEE money, because when you see it differently, you’ll treat it differently.</p><p>If you’re feeling crushed by debt, you’re trying to save for a new home, you can’t stop spending, or you’re constantly getting into arguments with your partner over money issues, you need to hear this episode today.</p><p>You have to learn to feel confident around money, and Ramit has the practical tools and resources to teach you how.</p><p>And if you’re looking for another zero-cost resource to help you change your mindset around finances, I’ve got just the thing.</p><p>Sign up for my free training called <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control with Mel Robbins</a>. </p><p> </p><p>You’ll be joining a quarter million other students who’ve signed up already and you’ll get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook that will help you get the clarity you’re looking for to change the direction of your life. All you have to do is <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">sign up here</a>.</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>6:05: Just like me, Ramit has his own story of big-time money loss. </li><li>11:20: Assignment #1: Think back to your 20’s and ask yourself this question. </li><li>12:45: How do your childhood influences impact your beliefs around money?</li><li>19:30: This is a truth bomb about money that you need to hear. </li><li>20:15: If you want to live a rich life, you need to do two things.</li><li>22:30: My favorite thing to spend money on might seem ridiculous.</li><li>24:45: Wondering what most people love to spend money on? </li><li>30:00: Why is it important to come up with a fun vision around money?</li><li>33:30: How do you define your “rich life”?</li><li>34:30: What is a rich life for someone living in debt?</li><li>37:45: I think everyone listening needs to do this fun activity.</li><li>40:30: Especially if life is hard right now, THIS is what you have to do..</li><li>45:30: Here’s how you step your way closer to your rich life.</li><li>47:00: How can you feel in control of something if you don’t understand the details?</li><li>48:30: The four numbers everyone should know to stop feeling overwhelmed by money.</li><li>56:00: NEVER say this about yourself because it will create your reality.</li><li>59:00: We have a bad relationship with money in this country.</li><li>50:00: Use this tool to figure out how long it will pay off your debt.</li><li>1:06:30: The two areas most people spend too much money on.</li><li>1:10:00: Ramit lays down the bottom line about changing your mindset around money. </li><li>1:13:00: Here’s your new money mantra to play on repeat. </li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Incredible Research From Harvard: 4 Simple Tools to Conquer Your Fear

<p>A few years ago, I found this study from Harvard, and it changed my life.</p><p>It's research about performance and feeling nervous, with a simple reframing method that you can use to never let fear stop you again.</p><p>I’ve been using this technique with my five second rule for years, and the first way I applied it was to get control of my nerves and fear of public speaking.</p><p>I’m going to teach you this new method in a super cool way... by taking you on the road, on stage, and behind the scenes with me as I deliver a keynote address to 3,000 people at the convention center in Dallas.</p><p>I’ve been wanting to bring you on the road with me for awhile, and this topic allowed me to record this episode live in multiple locations while all kinds of things were unfolding.</p><p>There’s even an impromptu guest appearance from Michelle Poler, whose entire speaking career is about teaching people how to face their fears.</p><p>This Harvard-backed technique is so cool because it leverages your body chemistry, physiology, and neural pathways to your advantage.</p><p>The #1 fear most people have is public speaking, but this technique will help you with absolutely everything, whether it’s speaking up at work, giving an incredible presentation, not choking when you deliver the toast at your best friend’s wedding, performing better on tests, or even running better.</p><p>Stop letting fear hold you back. Use science not only to reframe your fears into excitement but to conquer them once and for all.</p><p>And one more thing. My free, brand new, research-backed training called "<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control with Mel Robbins</a>" is live and waiting for you. Get 3 incredible video trainings plus a 21-page workbook, and all you have to do is <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">sign up here</a>.</p><p>Already a quarter of a million students are taking the course for free.</p><p>I’m just waiting for you!</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>5:00: I’m always asked how I got into public speaking. Here’s the story.</li><li>10:15: The question YOU need to ask when someone asks how much you charge.</li><li>12:15: One of THE best tools to calm your nerves is not meditation (for me), but this.</li><li>13:30: This is my favorite quote from Charlie Bird Parker.</li><li>15:15: The wardrobe failure that may have rivaled Janet Jackson’s.</li><li>16:30: Failure sucks, but the Pratfall Effect says failure can work for you. </li><li>19:00: I was so excited to meet this speaker and bestselling author from Venezuela.</li><li>21:45: Best journal starter question ever:<i> Are you alive but not living</i>?</li><li>24:30: Feeling like you never have time? You’re not going to believe this advice.</li><li>28:15: Turns out modeling nude is actually a really profound experience. </li><li>29:00: Fear might indicate danger OR it might indicate growth. Pay attention.</li><li>30:00: How can you tell the difference between true intuition and limiting fear?</li><li>32:30: How do you get over your fear of public speaking?</li><li>34:00: Feeling imposter syndrome? You’re not alone. Here’s what you need.</li><li>40:15: Come on stage with me at the Dallas Convention Center.</li><li>40:40: I’m going to face my biggest fear next year for Oakley’s 18th birthday.</li><li>42:00: When you do something that scares the pants off you, remember this.</li><li>44:30: Tool #3 is based on research from Harvard - here’s what you tell yourself.</li><li>50:00: You don’t feel butterflies when you’re nervous because you’re going to screw up.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Take Control of Your Mindset: Master Your Mental Habits for a Happier Life

<p>In this episode, you’re learning a simple but powerful way to take control of your mindset. </p><p>You need to get serious about your mindset. The way you think and talk to yourself has serious consequences.</p><p>Your thoughts become your beliefs.</p><p>Your beliefs turn into actions.</p><p>Your actions become habits.</p><p>And your habits determine who you are and what you achieve in life, or not.</p><p>That’s why you need a Mindset Reset.</p><p>Imagine if your thoughts were positive, empowering, clear, and encouraging. Imagine if your beliefs inspired the best in you.</p><p>If you’re tired of listening to a voice that beats you down, fills you with doubt, and argues against your goals and dreams, it’s time to change your thinking.</p><p>Today, you’ll learn how to do it for yourself and start programming a more positive, empowering, and confident mindset.</p><p>So pull up a seat as I coach two people through the process.</p><p>I’m so confident you’re going to be fired up after listening to this episode that I have a free gift to help you take your current mindset to the next level.</p><p>I have a brand new, free, 3-part training called "<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control with Mel Robbins</a>."</p><p>It will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.</p><p>It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a 21-page workbook. Plus you’ll be with hundreds of thousands of other students taking the course for free around the world.</p><p>All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.</p><p>You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. Why not take advantage of this opportunity? I’ll see you <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">in the course</a>!</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p><strong>In this episode, you will learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>5:00: What does your default critical soundtrack sound like in your mind?</li><li>7:30: Here’s the mantra I want you to start your day with. </li><li>9:45: This is one of my easiest and favorite tools for dealing with a critical voice.</li><li>16:00: This is the #1 hit playlist I want you to put on repeat. </li><li>17:30: Drop this word if you want to improve your relationship with others.</li><li>22:30: Work on the most important relationship of all first.</li><li>24:15: What if your critics are the voices of your boss, partner, and friends?</li><li>26:25: This trauma response is very common when you live in a state of anxiety.</li><li>30:15: Here’s why telling yourself that you love yourself doesn’t work for you.</li><li>32:00: Yes, your boss may be a douche, but you don’t have to let that ruin you.</li><li>35:00: Don’t leave today without taking away this message.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

5 Easy Steps to Make Your Home and Your Mind Clutter-Free

<p>This episode blew my freakin’ mind.</p><p>After you meet our expert today and learn her revolutionary approach to simplifying your life, you will never approach the topic of picking up, cleaning up, or organizing the same way again.</p><p>Whether it’s your desk or closet that is overwhelming you, or like me, you are guilty of constantly starting projects and putting things in piles, only to run out of time or get flustered, creating bigger projects to deal with in the future, today’s episode will change your entire life.</p><p>I had no idea how simple it could be to feel organized and in control.</p><p>I learned from our expert today that I was attacking organization completely wrong, and that was the problem.</p><p>Her 5 steps are so life-changing that from the moment I finished talking to her, I started putting them into practice, and the results are incredible.</p><p>Get ready to laugh and learn as I confess the details of what a disaster I am (my husband even rats me out).</p><p>Luckily, the incredible Dana K. White, founder of the hit blog, A Slob Comes Clean, and author of <i>How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind</i>, is here to help us all.</p><p>And that's not all.</p><p>Don’t forget to sign up for "<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control with Mel Robbins</a>."</p><p>It’s free. It’s my gift to you for supporting this podcast.</p><p>It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook.</p><p>This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.</p><p>And if you combine this training with Dana’s advice about decluttering, you, my friend, won’t even recognize yourself in a week.</p><p>All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.</p><p>You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?</p><p>Sign up for free at<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank"> melrobbins.com/takecontrol</a> now.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>2:00: What Chris thinks about living with a slob. 😂</li><li>4:40: Wait. Organizing and decluttering are NOT the same thing?</li><li>6:20: Focus this way on organizing, and it will change your life.</li><li>7:30: Why doesn’t it work to buy all those organizing containers?</li><li>9:45: How do you know what your “clutter threshold” is?</li><li>12:15: We’ve gotten the purpose of containers all wrong!</li><li>17:40: Use “the visibility rule” before you do anything.</li><li>20:00: This is why you begin with a BLACK trash bag.</li><li>23:30: This part is still pretty easy. I can do this and you can, too.</li><li>25:00: Here’s why you don’t want a fancy “donate” box.</li><li>26:30: The decluttering question you’ve never heard before.</li><li>30:45: Here’s what REALLY happens with those organized piles.</li><li>31:50: No piles. Here’s what you do instead.</li><li>34:15: This is why we always put off organizing in the first place.</li><li>37:35: The second decluttering question you’ve never heard before.</li><li>39:00: Stop making organizing seem so big!</li><li>43:30: Spoiler alert: avoiding clutter doesn’t make it go away.</li><li>48:30: So how DO you live with a partner who’s a slob?</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 2

<p>Today’s episode is a continuation of our exclusive two-part series with world-renowned medical expert Dr. Russell Kennedy.</p><p>If you thought Part 1 of this series was life-changing, buckle up! Part 2 of this Toolkit brings you even more strategies and tools as we take questions from three more listeners of the podcast.</p><p>Is anxiety impacting your ability to sleep?</p><p>Tired of the negative loop of thoughts in your mind?</p><p>Is anxiety affecting your kids?</p><p>Is it genetic?</p><p>Are there surprising signs of adult anxiety?</p><p>Did your parents struggle with it, and you never knew?</p><p>How do you break generational cycles?</p><p>Dr. Kennedy answers these questions and so many more. You’ll also learn what most therapists get "wrong" about anxiety.</p><p>You'll find Dr. Kennedy’s approach both revolutionary and effective. As a medical doctor and neuroscientist, he will coach you on the critical difference between "coping” with anxiety and his protocol for "healing" it once and for all.</p><p>And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the life-changing answers and guidance they need to finally heal.</p><p>If you are looking for more free resources and support, I’ve got you! I have a brand new, free 3-part training called "<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control with Mel Robbins</a>."</p><p>This training will provide you with the coaching, structure, and support you need to hit reset, take control, and level up your life.</p><p>It features 3 brand-new training videos, two hours of research-backed curriculum taught by me, and a detailed 21-page workbook. Plus, you’ll be taking the course with over half a million other students around the world.</p><p>All at zero cost to you. Why? Because you deserve it, and it’s my way of thanking you for being here with me.</p><p>You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain. So why not take advantage of this opportunity?</p><p>Sign up for free at<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank"> melrobbins.com/takecontrol</a> now.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p>P.S. And if you haven’t yet listened to <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-toolkit-for-healing-anxiety-part-1/id1646101002?i=1000608129393" target="_blank">The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 1</a> then do that as soon as you listen to this one, because you can’t afford to miss out.</p><p> </p><p>P.S.S. This Toolkit for Healing Anxiety is not meant as a replacement for therapy, but if you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while, forward this series to them for guidance too. It would be great information to include in your sessions.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li>3:45 What do you do when your anxiety creeps in at night?</li><li>6:15: Here’s where most therapeutic approaches get it wrong.</li><li>7:15: Use this strategy when you wake up in the night with anxiety.</li><li>10:00: Living with social anxiety? Dr. Kennedy explains why.</li><li>12:00: This is why you have a hard time slowing down. And me too!</li><li>14:30: I couldn’t believe what happened when I started facing my anxiety.</li><li>15:45: Cold plunges teach your body to be uncomfortable and still be okay.</li><li>17:15: This approach doesn’t eliminate the alarm, and yet you still heal.</li><li>20:00: Dr. Kennedy’s #1 tool to move you into rest-and-digest pretty quickly.</li><li>21:15: Not sure what your nervous system has to do with anxiety? Listen here.</li><li>23:45: Use these two tools to move yourself out of the freeze response.</li><li>30:00: So how do you start breaking the cycle of anxiety in a family?</li><li>34:30: For those of us who grew up in the “I’ll give you something to cry about.”</li><li>35:00: What are signs that your parents were actually struggling with anxiety?</li><li>43:30: Here’s what your life can look like once you heal your alarm.</li><li>45:15: Look at your alarm this way, and your mindset towards it changes, too.</li><li>49:45: Here’s the neuroscience behind why essential oils help calm your body.</li><li>52:00: Dr. Kennedy shares his tips for playing “the right way.”</li><li>56:15: Have this where you can see it to remember your partner’s vulnerability.</li></ul><p> </p><p>And if you missed when Dr. Kennedy joined us the first time, <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truth-about-anxiety-and-how-to-heal-it-tools/id1646101002?i=1000582487785" target="_blank">click here</a>!</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety, Part 1

<p>Today’s episode is my gift to you and anyone in your life who struggles with anxiety.</p><p>I created this exclusive series, "The Toolkit for Healing Anxiety," because of the number of questions I am receiving from listeners asking for more resources on this topic. </p><p>Part 1 is packed with tactical takeaways and features Dr. Russell Kennedy, one of the world's most respected medical experts on anxiety. </p><p>Dr. Kennedy is a medical doctor and neuroscientist who has a revolutionary and effective approach to helping his patients understand and heal anxiety.</p><p>(He's also been our most popular expert on the podcast to date.)</p><p>Dr. Kennedy teaches you the truth about where anxiety comes from and the mistake that most therapists make when treating it. </p><p>You’ll also have a front-row seat as he coaches listeners on the critical difference between "coping with anxiety" and his protocol for "healing it" once and for all.</p><p>I can’t wait for you to listen and apply the advice in this life-changing series.</p><p>And for anyone in your life who may be struggling, please share this exclusive series generously; it could provide the answers and guidance they need.</p><p>If you have follow-up questions, send them to me in the DMs or through the podcast topic link on melrobbins.com/podcast. We read them and use them to program future episodes (this toolkit is an example of that).</p><p>This episode is not meant as a replacement for therapy, but if you’ve been seeing a therapist for a while and aren’t seeing yourself improve, you may want to forward this series to them for guidance too.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p>Didn’t get to listen to Dr. Kennedy’s first interview? <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-truth-about-anxiety-and-how-to-heal-it-tools/id1646101002?i=1000582487785">Check that out here</a>.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><p>·         5:00: I bet you haven’t heard this definition of anxiety before. . </p><p>·         6:15: So where exactly does anxiety come from?</p><p>·         7:30: This is a revolutionary way of thinking about how to heal anxiety.</p><p>·         8:45: If you’re waking up this way, that’s a red flag. </p><p>·         9:45: A trauma response isn’t directed outward- it’s here instead.</p><p>·         12:00: Have you tried everything to deal with your anxiety? </p><p>·         14:45: Forget what you’ve tried so far, THIS is what will actually heal you.</p><p>·         19:00: This sign of anxiety may surprise you. </p><p>·         22:00: Anxiety happens because of this and addictions “fix” it</p><p>·         24:00: I think there are these three layers to healing your anxiety.</p><p>·         27:15: What the hell does “inner child” mean and why does it matter?</p><p>·         30:00: There’s a difference between drama and trauma. </p><p>·         34:00: Dr. Kennedy tried everything, but only this healed his anxiety.</p><p>·         37:00: Okay, what’s one specific and tangible tool we can use?</p><p>·         40:30: Do this together with me now.</p><p>·         44:00: Here’s why play is so important for healing trauma.</p><p>·         47:00: Healing will take time. Here’s why and what you need.</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

5 Ways to Take Your Power Back When People Disrespect You

<p>Today, you and I are calling BS on partners, friends, siblings, colleagues, and roommates who ride on your coattails, mooch off your generosity, and love the fact that you do everything. (While they do next to nothing.…)</p><p> </p><p>It’s time to take your power back with 5 actionable takeaways to get people in your life to step up and do their part.</p><p> </p><p>I’m not messing around. The first person you’ll meet in this episode is tired of being the only one holding her family together.  </p><p> </p><p>And during the second coaching session I get even more intense with a woman whose boyfriend hasn’t had a job in three years.</p><p> </p><p>Hear me loud and clear: by enabling other people, you are part of the problem. </p><p> </p><p>There are 5 things you need to know that will change this dysfunction now.</p><p> </p><p>Clear your schedule for the next hour because you and I have an appointment where you, my friend, will learn how to lay down the law and start putting yourself first.</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p>Can’t ask for what you need? Listen to “<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-speak-up-for-yourself-simple-strategies-for/id1646101002?i=1000606014020" target="_blank">How to Speak Up for Yourself.</a>”</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you will learn:</strong></p><p><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>3:00: Do you have people in your life who rely on you a little too much?</li><li>4:30: Maybe you’re being used or maybe it’s this instead.</li><li>7:00: Is it time for you to be the parent now?</li><li>10:00: This is how to get your entire family on the same page.</li><li>14:00: Your siblings will understand your expectations if you do this.</li><li>17:15: Do this to make people feel that they’re doing the right thing.</li><li>21:30: Have a partner that isn’t pulling their weight? You need to hear this.</li><li>35:00: This is how you start a conversation when it’s time to set boundaries.</li><li>38:30: In a toxic partnered relationship? This is the truth bomb you need.</li><li>40:15: Has it become more important to be loved than to love yourself?</li><li>44:45: Let me coach you through this exercise to help you change your future.</li><li>48:00: Another truth bomb you need to hear today, no matter what you’re doing.</li><li>51:45: Listen to Brooke set a courageous boundary for the first time.</li><li>54:00: Keep little ears away, because this is what tough f’n love sounds like.</li><li>56:30: Stop letting your patterns make choices for you and step up.</li><li>1:00:45: Use this word instead of “ultimatum” when it’s time for that.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How to Handle Negative People: 6 Strategies to Protect Your Peace

<p>In this episode, you and I are talking about how to protect your peace.</p><p> </p><p>You already spend a lot of time trying to be positive - so today I want to remind you that it is just as important to <i>protect your energy </i> from people and situations who suck it dry. </p><p> </p><p>You know the ones. </p><p> </p><p>The friend who is so n-e-g-a-t-i-v-e, about everything! </p><p>The rude person at the coffee shop. </p><p>The colleague who’s always stirring the pot.</p><p>The toxic dynamic with certain family members.</p><p> </p><p>Negative people are like dogs who have just jumped into a muddy pond. They come running up to you smelling all nasty and as soon as they get next to you - boom - they shake all that crap all over you. </p><p> </p><p>It’s time to protect yourself.</p><p> </p><p>Today’s podcast episode will teach you six super easy science-backed strategies to help you create an impenetrable force field against bad energy (and muddy dogs).</p><p> </p><p>You can’t allow that crap to get on you - because your positive life force deserves your protection!</p><p> </p><p>And today I’m teaching you how.  Force fields up! Positive energy out!</p><p> </p><p>Because that, my friend, is something to feel great about!</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>2:00: Jumping right in with Veronica’s question about emails that ruin her day.</li><li>3:50: You probably have your own stories of entitlement like this one.</li><li>7:30: This technique I use when somebody’s mood is getting all over me.</li><li>9:15: The “snow globe” works best when you’re getting attitude.</li><li>12:30: I know this about people when they explode into a tantrum.</li><li>14:30: Science explains why our bodies stress when we’re around bad moods.</li><li>17:20: Work in a toxic environment? You have these two choices.</li><li>22:40: Dealing with a curmudgeon? I got you. Use the law of reciprocity.</li><li>26:00: Here’s how I melted the ice when I became a legal analyst with CNN.</li><li>29:30: Gossip is bad for your brain and body. Here’s why.</li><li>31:30: Here’s the #1 strategy to stop your gossip today.</li><li>33:30: Once you see triangulation, you’ll look at your relationships differently.</li><li>36:00: This one simple strategy can brighten someone’s day right now.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Have you been betrayed? Listen to “<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-49" target="_blank">What to do when you’ve been cheated on</a>.”</p><p>Need a confidence boost? Here’s your “<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-46" target="_blank">Confidence Toolkit</a>.”</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Every Tattoo Has a Story: Here’s Mine

<p>In today’s episode, I’m finally answering the #1 personal question that I get asked:</p><p> </p><p><i>What’s the story behind my tattoo on my right wrist?</i></p><p> </p><p>Pull up a seat to laugh along with us as Chris and I share our tattoo adventure - complete with anxiety, jealousy, intention, love, a huge mistake on my part, and the most incredible moments of synchronicity.</p><p> </p><p>But it’s not just a story; there’s a much more profound topic we are discussing today. </p><p> </p><p>Because tattoos aren’t really about tattoos. </p><p> </p><p>They are an example of a powerful, positive force that habit researchers call an “environmental trigger.” </p><p> </p><p>They’re also an example of another tool that you can use to create a more powerful and resilient mindset.</p><p> </p><p>Because a lot of tattoos are also “meaningful mantras.” </p><p> </p><p>Today, you will learn how to create and use positive triggers and meaningful mantras to improve your life and to remind you of either a deeper purpose or the values you want to live by.</p><p> </p><p>This goes way beyond etching ink onto your body. </p><p> </p><p>By the end of this episode, you’ll not only be inspired to create your own meaningful mantra, you will have several specific examples of how you can create a positive environmental trigger using things you have around your house. </p><p> </p><p>One thing’s for sure, this episode will leave a lasting impression. 😄</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel  </p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>6:00: I’m answering this personal question so many of you have been asking.</li><li>8:30: Chris shares his powerful story for the tattoo he etched on his forearm.</li><li>12:00: The inspiration for my own tattoo came from this.</li><li>15:00: You won’t believe what happened on our 15th wedding anniversary.</li><li>18:00: Here’s how I beat myself up while Chris was getting his tattoo.</li><li>19:00: You might know this already, but a tattoo isn’t just a tattoo. </li><li>21:00: I just love the synchronicity behind this entire tattoo event.</li><li>24:30: Chris’s tattoo has become a lifeline for him, especially now.</li><li>30:30: Rule #1: a mantra will only work for you if you have this first.</li><li>32:15: Need an idea for your own mantra? I’ve got a bunch of them for you.</li><li>34:30: Here’s how to figure out your own powerful mantra.</li><li>36:30: This is what scientists think about why tattoos are so powerful.</li><li>38:15: Here’s what Chris did that gets him emotional every time he sees it.</li><li>41:00: Are you a busy mom? Then this mantra might work for you.</li><li>42:40: Maybe you need to shift your thinking about a mantra this way.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Learn more about <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/train-your-mind-how-why-the-science-of-synchronicity/id1646101002?i=1000589337373" target="_blank">“How & Why Synchronicity Can Improve Your Life.”</a></p><p>Want more about finding your purpose? <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-find-your-purpose-stop-searching-and-do-this-instead/id1646101002?i=1000598772287" target="_blank">“Stop Searching and Do This Instead.”</a></p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How to Speak Up for Yourself: Simple Strategies for Being Heard

<p>In this episode, you’re learning how to speak up for yourself and make sure that you are heard.</p><p> </p><p>Whether you want to be more influential and visible at work or there’s a hard conversation that you’ve been avoiding with a family member, this episode will empower you to have a breakthrough.</p><p> </p><p>Most of us have never been taught the skills we need to have challenging conversations or to better advocate for our needs.</p><p> </p><p>The good news is that these are skills, and you are going to learn them in a very entertaining and relatable format today.</p><p> </p><p>You’re invited to listen in on multiple coaching sessions with listeners just like you and me who are struggling to find the words or the courage to say what needs to be said.</p><p> </p><p>So today I’m unpacking my formula, step by step, for handling challenging conversations.</p><p> </p><p>This is an excellent episode to send to people in your life who you really wish saw their own value and worth and could communicate it better.</p><p> </p><p>I can’t wait to hear how these very clear steps have helped you have those conversations you’ve been putting off and to show up differently at work and school.</p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>3:00: Listen to Claudia’s question about how to set boundaries in friendships.</li><li>5:30: Here are 3 reasons why we avoid difficult conversations in the first place.</li><li>14:40: Do you have a friend who criticizes you? Listen to this.</li><li>17:30: Make sure you are ready with THIS before you start your conversation.</li><li>19:45: This is a prime example of a time when I was being a crappy friend.</li><li>23:30: Here’s what you should assume before you have a conversation.</li><li>25:30: Never do this or you’ll put the other person on the defensive.</li><li>26:45: If you can, PLEASE have your conversation this way.</li><li>30:40: Here’s my favorite visual when it’s my turn to listen.</li><li>33:40: Do you have to communicate with an ex? Listen to Erica.</li><li>35:50: You’ve got to learn how to “gray rock” when dealing with difficult people.</li><li>36:40: See the petty people in this ridiculous way and it will help!</li><li>39:30: Like it or not, you have to have this conversation for your kids’ sake.</li><li>40:30: Here is what anger and pettiness actually is.</li><li>41:15: One of two things will happen when you handle conversations like this.</li><li>43:30: How do you handle combative people in your life? Listen to Candace.</li><li>46:00: Here’s what a person with anxious attachment needs to hear from you.</li><li>49:00: Need to have a conversation with someone who’s triggered easily?</li></ul><p> </p><p>Is it time to let go of your relationship? If so, then listen to “<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-let-go-2-simple-ways-to-find-clarity-move-on/id1646101002?i=1000582846550" target="_blank">How to Let Go.</a>”</p><p> </p><p>Learn about “<a href="https://youtu.be/WNmYDYdgYQo" target="_blank">The 4 Attachment Styles for Healthy Relationships.</a>”</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Reset Your Health in 10 Days: Advice From a Renowned MD

<p>I made you an appointment with one of the world’s leading doctors in functional medicine.</p><p>Dr. Mark Hyman has written an incredible 14 (!!!) New York Times best sellers. He is the founder and director of The UltraWellness Center, and Head of Strategy and Innovation at the Cleveland Clinic Center for Functional Medicine.</p><p>His latest book, <i>Young Forever</i>, teaches you science-backed, actionable steps to slow down the aging process and even reverse disease.</p><p>An appointment like this would cost $$$ in person, but today, it’s free for you.</p><p>Seriously, you will be floored by what you hear.</p><p>No matter how old you are, you have more control over your health than you may think, and it’s never too early or too late to start making simple yet profound changes.</p><p>Having trouble sleeping? We've got you.</p><p>Brain fog and headaches messing up your day? Check.</p><p>Low energy? We hear you.</p><p>Anxiety and ADHD running your life? We’re covering that too.</p><p>In this episode, we are breaking everything down point by point so that you get the specific, actionable steps you need to start changing your life in real time.</p><p>Grab a notebook because the doctor is in and he will see you now.</p><p>Get ready to take charge of your health like never before.</p><p>Xo Mel</p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcast" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>9:30: Food is not just food; here’s what it becomes once you eat it.</li><li>12:30: So what’s the connection between gut health and overall health?</li><li>14:45: What exactly is inflammation and what’s causing it?</li><li>16:30: Okay, so then what does a healthy gut look like?</li><li>19:30: Put these foods on your plate for 10 days and see what happens.</li><li>23:30: The big fat lie we’re being fed every day.</li><li>25:30: Can changing my gut heal my anxiety?</li><li>27:15: This simple tool will improve digestion and calm your nerves.</li><li>28:30: Phenomenal story of ADHD that was healed in two months.</li><li>31:30: The difference between two main types of allergies.</li><li>34:00: Holy sh*t! What Dr. Hyman said that reminded me of Oakley.</li><li>37:45: The 5 major things in your life that cause inflammation.</li><li>40:00: Simple tips to help you start sleeping better.</li><li>42:40: If we could cure this, we’d extend our lives by more than 7 years.</li><li>44:45: These are the supplements you and I should be taking.</li><li>48:15: Here’s what causes your body to dump too much magnesium.</li><li>50:50: Trouble with your hormones? You need to hear this.</li><li>55:00: Do this if you want a clear picture of your health.</li><li>59:45: What probiotics help reset your gut?</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p>Start your day off with focus using “<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-40" target="_blank">A Toolkit for the Perfect Morning Routine.</a>”</p><p>Here are more “<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-22" target="_blank">Simple Ways to Improve Your Brain Health.</a>”</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Practical, Proven Tools I Use When I Feel Overwhelmed

<p>In this episode, you and I are tackling overwhelm together as I coach five listeners just like you who are tired of feeling so stressed.</p><p> </p><p>I promise this will be helpful, fun, and full of powerful tools you can put to use immediately.</p><p> </p><p>You need that because you’re drowning in your to-do lists, taking care of everyone else but yourself, and you’re saying yes to every commitment that enters your inbox. </p><p> </p><p>That’s why simple solutions are the answer.</p><p> </p><p>And I need these solutions too. I feel like my to-do list is overflowing and the demands are piling up.</p><p> </p><p>But that’s okay, because with The Mel Robbins Podcast, you get to show up exactly as you are.</p><p> </p><p>And today, we will start breaking down the two types of overwhelm so you can understand exactly what it is you’re dealing with. </p><p> </p><p>But we don’t stop there.</p><p> </p><p>You’re also getting three simple but profound strategies to help you eliminate the overwhelm from your life.</p><p> </p><p>So that you start feeling energized again. </p><p> </p><p>And I so want that for you. </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-50" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /> </p><ul><li>3:30: If you’re a parent or caregiver, you’ll recognize yourself in Laura’s question.</li><li>8:00: Knowing the two types of overwhelm has profoundly impacted my life.</li><li>9:00: What my talk show mentor taught me that I’ll never forget.</li><li>11:45: When it comes to dealing with legitimate overwhelm, start here.</li><li>14:45: Can you have a morning routine when your life is overwhelmed?</li><li>17:00: When life seems insanely busy, you have to stop telling yourself this lie.</li><li>18:00: Here’s my #1 strategy for dealing with overwhelm.</li><li>23:30: Are you someone who says yes to everything? Then this is for you.</li><li>28:40: The Rule of Three saves me every time.</li><li>32:35: This truth about procrastination will make you see it in a whole new way.</li><li>38:15: Procrastinating on paying your bills? You need to listen to Michelle.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p>Don’t know how to say no? Listen to <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-44" target="_blank">“Start Putting Yourself First.”</a></p><p>And I know you will like <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-42" target="_blank">“The Only Way to Stop Procrastinating.”</a></p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

What to Do When You’ve Been Cheated On

<p>In this episode, we are digging into betrayal and learning how to get your power back after someone shatters your trust.</p><p> </p><p>It’s happened to me and I know it’s happened to you, too.</p><p> </p><p>Maybe someone cheated on you. Maybe someone stole from you in business. Perhaps it was a friend who stabbed you in the back.  </p><p> </p><p>It’s painful.  </p><p> </p><p>You might not be sure how to confront that person, or if it’s even worth it. </p><p> </p><p>Or if you did confront them, they may have denied and deflected, making you feel like something was wrong with you.</p><p> </p><p>Well today I’m using my own experiences with betrayal to coach Sonia and Jenn - and you - through this. </p><p> </p><p>You always have options, and whether you believe it or not, you can get your power back.</p><p> </p><p>Today’s episode will help you heal, change your perspective, and equip you with the tools you need to land on your feet and be smarter, more open and able to create healthier relationships, partnerships, and friendships in the future.</p><p> </p><p>You deserve that.</p><p> </p><p>Buckle up, because your friend Mel is hitting you between the eyes with some hard earned wisdom and tough love today. </p><p> </p><p> Xo Mel </p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-49" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>3:30: I was betrayed by someone in my business and this is what I learned.</li><li>4:12: Sonia asks her question about a painful betrayal.</li><li>5:15: Should you confront this person? Ask yourself this first.</li><li>11:40: You don’t need to have this in order to feel closure with someone.</li><li>14:20: Here’s how to have a conversation with someone who betrayed you.</li><li>16:00: Jenn reveals how her painful betrayal has changed her.</li><li>17:30: This is the hardest part of betrayal to grasp. Please play on repeat.</li><li>19:20: Here is what you’re actually grieving after you’ve been betrayed.</li><li>26:45: You need to change your story of betrayal. Here’s how.</li><li>28:30: Trying to work through betrayal with someone you love? Listen to this.</li><li>34:40: Here is what the experts say about affairs. </li><li>39:45: The advice from Jenn that you need to hear if you’ve just been betrayed.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p>Here is Betrayal 101: “<a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-26" target="_blank">3 Lessons From One of the Hardest Years of My Life.</a>”</p><p>When it’s time to do this, listen to <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-5" target="_blank">“How to Let Go.”</a></p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Unlock a Happier Life: 3 Research-Backed Secrets

<p>In this episode, you and I are getting intentional about your happiness.</p><p>Happiness is misunderstood.</p><p>Fortunately, there’s a ton of research that explains why it can be so elusive and, even better, HOW you can create a happier life, starting today.</p><p>Our conversation about happiness begins with breaking down the two types of happiness and why it’s important for you to include both in your life.</p><p>You’ll also learn four practical takeaways that research says are key for cultivating more happiness in your daily life.</p><p>I love this episode, and I can’t wait for you to experience it! I am bringing the science and the strategies, and I have a phenomenal metaphor to share with you that will forever change the way you view happiness.</p><p>You’re not only going to learn what to do; you’re going to experience several listeners just like you who are seeking more happiness and fulfillment in their lives.</p><p>This is a highly relatable, entertaining, and transformative episode, so don’t miss out.</p><p>You’ll be happy you joined us.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-48" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p>And if you want to start owning your mornings, join my free <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/wakeup" target="_blank">Wake Up Challenge</a>.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>3:00: Can’t remember the last time you were truly happy? You’re not alone.</li><li>5:00: Does this happen to you when you chase happiness?</li><li>8:00: What do we mean by happiness, anyway?</li><li>8:30: You knew this was coming- my favorite metaphor for happiness!</li><li>10:15: Science puts happiness into these two buckets.</li><li>14:00: The problem when you’re on a big healing journey and what to do about it.</li><li>23:00: Can you feel happy even during the mundane, ordinary days?</li><li>24:15: Believe it or not, here’s where you find true happiness.</li><li>26:30: This is the single best decision you can make to cultivate happiness.</li><li>30:00: This is how your brain reads loneliness because you’re meant to connect.</li><li>35:00: Building warm relationships starts here.</li><li>37:30: Here’s how I reorganized my own life to stop feeling lonely.</li><li>39:50: My mom is a pro at this and research shows it will boost your energy.</li><li>44:30: What do you need to know about feeling inner peace?</li><li>46:30: Here’s why older people tend to be happier.</li><li>48:30: Three surprising ways to actually invite more peace in your life.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p> </p><p>This episode pairs well with <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode19" target="_blank">“You’ll Never Be Truly Happy Until You Start Doing This”</a></p><p> </p><p>Learn how to train your mind with <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-33" target="_blank">“The Mindset Reset Toolkit.”</a>.</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer </a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Are You the Driver in Your Life or Just the Passenger?

<p>Today’s episode is a trip.</p><p> </p><p>I can’t wait to introduce you to my favorite metaphor - a road trip - to inspire you to have more fun and enjoy the ride on this thing called life.</p><p> </p><p>After all, life is a journey. And no one’s path is exactly the same. </p><p> </p><p>So today, I’m asking you to think about this road trip called life. </p><p> </p><p>And I’m going to be asking you to consider some thought-provoking questions:</p><p> </p><p><i>Are you the driver or the passenger of your life?</i></p><p> </p><p><i>Are you even on the right road? </i></p><p> </p><p><i>Do you need to pick a new direction? </i></p><p> </p><p><i>Are you heading where you want to go, but speeding so fast you can’t enjoy the ride?</i></p><p> </p><p><i>Is it time to update the road trip playlist (in your head)?</i></p><p> </p><p><i>And most importantly, what lies on the road ahead? </i></p><p> </p><p>Whether you’ve just graduated, you’re an empty nester, or you’re somewhere in between, this episode is the perfect gift to send to absolutely everyone in your life.</p><p> </p><p>Change is scary, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m here to help you navigate the road ahead. </p><p> </p><p>This episode will empower you to take the wheel in your life.</p><p> </p><p>Because you, my friend, have choices. </p><p> </p><p>And there’s a million ways to get to where you want to go.</p><p> </p><p>The best days of your life are ahead. I believe that, and after you embrace the opportunity of this road trip called life, you’ll believe it too! </p><p> </p><p>Xo Mel </p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-47" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p>And if you want to start owning your mornings, join my free <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/wakeup" target="_blank">Wake Up Challenge</a>.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>1:00: You’re often asking me about my career history, well here it is!</li><li>3:00: What does reinvention mean anyway?</li><li>6:00: The #1 piece of advice to remember before you reinvent your life.</li><li>8:45: 90% of the questions coming into my inbox are about this.</li><li>9:40: This is my favorite metaphor when it comes to demystifying life’s journey.</li><li>12:45: When you are stuck or you’re going through hell, do this first.</li><li>14:15: What happens when life doesn't go the way you expected it to?</li><li>17:30: When sh*t happens in your life, please don’t do this.</li><li>18:30: Embrace these two truths about life, you’ll tap into your power.</li><li>20:30: Do this activity to start loving the most important person in your life.</li><li>22:00: What do you do when your life feels “blah” and uninspiring?</li><li>26:45: Don’t miss these science-backed steps to create more excitement!</li><li>31:45: I texted this study from Laura Vanderkam to all my parent friends.</li><li>35:30: Your relationship to time is always going to be about this.</li><li>36:15: This study with university students doesn’t make sense logically.</li><li>40:00: Denise was thinking about this for 20 YEARS; listen to what happened.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p> </p><p>Want more help with your dreams? Listen to <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-dreams-are-not-a-joke-its-time-to-dream-big/id1646101002?i=1000585717691" target="_blank">“Your Dreams Are Not a Joke”</a> and <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/goal-setting-toolkit-why-behavior-change-often-fails/id1646101002?i=1000592550554" target="_blank">“Goal-Setting Toolkit.”</a></p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Toolkit for Building Unstoppable Confidence (According to Research)

<p>In this episode, you are getting a brand new definition of confidence.</p><p>This definition is based on research studies on how confidence is built.</p><p>Confidence is not what you think it is.</p><p>It is not a personality trait you’re born with, and it’s not reserved only for extroverts.</p><p>Confidence is a skill that anyone can master.</p><p>And today is the perfect day for you to start.</p><p>You and I are breaking down the science together, and you’re invited to join in as I coach several listeners who are struggling with self-doubt.</p><p>By the time this episode is done, you will not only have a brand new definition of confidence, but you will also know how to put that definition to use to start building unstoppable confidence in your own life.</p><p>Confidence is your birthright. You can’t lose it; you just lost your connection to it.</p><p>Let’s get that back.</p><p>If you are willing to get up every day and put one foot in front of the other, you, my friend, will not only be practicing and building confidence, but over time you’ll start feeling more confident too.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p>Check out research and other resources at <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-46" target="_blank">melrobbins.com/podcast</a>.</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>2:00: The question Heather asked about confidence that so many of you have.</li><li>3:50: Honestly, here’s what happens when you have more confidence.</li><li>6:00: This is a “doing podcast," so here’s your first assignment.</li><li>8:30: This is what you and I were getting wrong about confidence. Until now.</li><li>8:45: Your new definition of confidence that embodies the research.</li><li>13:45: Here is one of the simplest and yet profound reasons for my success.</li><li>14:40: Did you happen to catch my 21-minute panic attack on TEDx?</li><li>16:50: Neuroscience says it gets easier to feel confident when you do this.</li><li>21:40: Feeling like an imposter? Great! Here’s why.</li><li>23:30: Alex’s question led us to talk about Myth #1 about confidence.</li><li>24:20: Here’s a surprising fact about confidence.</li><li>25:55: Myth #2 about confidence needs to be laid to rest.</li><li>27:00: Telling yourself that you lost your confidence? Then listen to Myth #3.</li><li>28:10: I’ve loved this TED Talk for years. </li><li>29:00: Use tool #1 to interrupt your self-doubt and do what you’re afraid of..</li><li>31:25: Confidence does not come before action; THIS does.</li><li>31:00: There are two types of people when it comes to action. Which are you?</li><li>33:30: Rule #2 is fun; research says it’s the fastest way to create new habits.</li><li>35:45: Rule #3 is absolutely essential if you want to build confidence.</li><li>38:00: Rule #4 is what I tell myself every time I’m about to do something scary.</li><li>40:50: I don’t want to come to the end of my life feeling this.</li><li>42:45: If you’re willing to feel this way, you’re guaranteed to keep growing.</li><li>44:15: Do you like this person you’re spending your life with?</li><li>46:00: Be careful who you give your number one commodity away to.</li><li>49:30: Ultimately, here’s why you’re not feeling confident. Now change that.</li><li>51:00: This is the hard truth about life that you need to hear.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p> </p><p>Sign up for my free 5-day <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/wakeup" target="_blank">Wake Up Challenge</a> to wake up your confidence.</p><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Before You Waste Another Year of Your Life, Get Serious About Healing Your Past

<p>This is an episode about how to face the things that you’re scared to admit, or as in the case of my guest today, have never publicly spoken about.</p><p>Today, you and I are going on a healing journey so that you can put the past where it belongs: in the rearview mirror.</p><p>You deserve healing.</p><p>It’s the only pathway for experiencing true peace, happiness, and the greatness you’re capable of.</p><p>So, I’m introducing you to a friend of mine who had some serious sh*t to face and has spent the last several years addressing the things that used to drag him down.</p><p>Do not miss this deeply personal conversation.</p><p>It is profound. It is relevant to your life and packed with so much wisdom. And we jump right in. </p><p>There are so many mic-drop moments, it would be hard for me to pick just one, because my guest today was so unguarded and generous.</p><p>You may know him, but you’ve never heard him like this before.</p><p>I’m talking about Lewis Howes, host of the award-winning podcast, The School of Greatness, which just celebrated its 10-year anniversary and has over 500 million downloads.</p><p>His brand new book, The Greatness Mindset, teaches you how to discover your own unique gifts and talents, but more importantly, how to do the work to heal.</p><p>And look, this conversation is “unguarded” and covers sensitive topics (particularly perhaps for the men in your life). So if this isn’t for you right now – please skip this episode.</p><p>I cannot wait to hear your favorite and most meaningful parts of this unforgettable conversation with Lewis.</p><p>Xo Mel</p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong><br /><br /> </p><ul><li>3:00: After all the work he’s done, how does Lewis define greatness?</li><li>4:50: If you’re drowning emotionally, here’s what to do.</li><li>6:00: One of the most profound ways to start accepting yourself.</li><li>8:00: If you were bullied or didn’t do well in school, you’ll relate to this.</li><li>13:00: Almost all of us have an identity crisis at some point in our lives.</li><li>14:43: Here’s what happens when success never feels fulfilling.</li><li>15:40: What does it feel like to be “at peace”?</li><li>19:30: Listen to Lewis describe the surprising places he felt his past trauma.</li><li>21:00: Here’s how Lewis came to terms with being dyslexic.</li><li>23:40: If you haven’t healed trauma, here’s how it can come out in your day to day life.</li><li>28:20: Lewis describes the first time he shared his trauma out loud.</li><li>37:00: No matter what you do, you don’t feel like you’re enough. Here’s what to do.</li><li>37:35: Here’s what’s incredible about seeing your own value.</li><li>40:30: Lewis started a podcast when podcasts were not really a thing. This is how it began.</li><li>42:30: The wake up moment that led to The School of Greatness.</li><li>45:15: Do this when you want to change your career or start a business.</li><li>46:30: I love this way of thinking about winning.</li><li>48:30: Out of hundreds, this is the interview guest that had the most impact.</li><li>50:30: Lewis only found real love after doing this first.</li><li>53:00: What does it mean to no longer abandon yourself?</li><li>54:00: Most men struggle with this because they were never taught how.</li><li>56:30: The powerful words Lewis said at the start of his current relationship.</li><li>58:00: The moment in Lewis’ therapy that changed everything.</li><li>60:00: The surprising place where Lewis found men who felt emotionally free.</li></ul><p> </p><p>Visit <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-45" target="_blank">www.melrobbins.com/podcast</a> for additional resources.</p><p> </p><p>Want me to answer your question on the podcast? Submit it <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/ask-a-question" target="_blank">here</a>.</p><p><br /><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>