The “Let Them Theory”: A Life Changing Mindset Hack That 15 Million People Can’t Stop Talking About
About this episode
<p>I shared the "Let Them Theory" on social media, and it went CRAZY VIRAL. 15 million views, 11,000 comments. Today, it’s your turn to learn this mindset trick.</p><p>I’ve been using this technique for a while, so I know firsthand how powerful it is.</p><p>The "Let Them Theory" is so simple, you’re going to get it immediately.</p><p>And I have some great stories and examples to share with you, because there are three very different ways you can use it.</p><p>I can bottom line this in one sentence: </p><p>When you "Let Them" do whatever it is that they want to do, it creates more control and emotional peace for you and a better relationship with the people in your life.</p><p>Xo Mel </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><ul><li>2:30: My overfunctioning anxiety kicked in, until this happened.</li><li>6:30: Dr. Amy Johnson gives the best metaphor that explains our need to control.</li><li>9:20: Why do we get so upset about what we can’t do a damn thing about?</li><li>10:30: These three reasons explain why we try to control.</li><li>11:20: Two reasons why your parents and partners are so controlling.</li><li>17:00: There are times like these when the “Let Them” rule does NOT apply.</li><li>19:00: How are you supposed to let go when you’re a parent?</li><li>24:30: Can you relate to this listener who’s worn down from her expectations?</li><li>28:00: Stop making up stories about why people do what they do, and just ask.</li><li>32:10: When you’re constantly rescuing people, here’s what you teach them.</li><li>35:00: Are you actually in a relationship with a real person, or a vision?</li><li>37:15: One way we try to control someone is through jealousy.</li><li>40:00: Growing apart from a good friend? Here’s how to handle it.</li><li>43:30: It’s not your responsibility to make sure everyone else is never hurt.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>
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