How to Make Hard Choices: Practical Tips for When Sh*t Gets Real
About this episode
<p>Oh…sometimes life is a real doozy.</p><p>You make all these plans, and boom. You step right into a pile of you-know-what. And then you realize that pile was there all along—you just missed it.</p><p>Which brings us to the topic of today’s episode: making hard decisions and moving on from hard relationships.</p><p>How do you move forward when… </p><p>You feel so torn about what to do.</p><p>You don’t trust yourself.</p><p>You’re scared to make the wrong decision.</p><p>What’s best for you will impact the people you love.</p><p>How do you decide your next big move when everything you worked for evaporates before your eyes? </p><p>How do you stop thinking about your ex, especially when you might bump into them at any moment?</p><p>I’ll tell you how.</p><p>Pull up a seat and join me because you are going to love the listener, Katrina, who I’m coaching today. Her question was, "Should I stay or should I go?"</p><p>By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have the answer to whatever question YOU are grappling with, but you'll also have so many decision-making tools in your back pocket that you’re going to need more pockets.</p><p>Today, you’re getting strategies to help you</p><ul><li><i>Live your life with no regrets.</i></li><li><i>Keep your cool when you see your ex.</i></li><li><i>Bounce back after rejection.</i></li><li><i>Stop feeling guilty about following your dreams.</i></li><li><i>Make courageous decisions.</i></li></ul><p>The biggest takeaway? Knowing the difference between what’s right for you and the fear that’s keeping you from it</p><p>When something is right, even if it’s scary as hell to go for it, you’ll only ever regret not having tried.</p><p>Xo Mel</p><p>PS - If you’re looking to ditch your insecurities for a powerful way to launch forward on your dreams, I’ve got just the thing for you. Sign up for my FREE <a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/takecontrol" target="_blank">Take Control</a> mini course here.</p><p> </p><p><strong>In this episode, you’ll learn:</strong></p><p> </p><ul><li>2:20: Ever been dumped? Then you’ll relate to what Katrina is going through.</li><li>4:00: The kind of decisions that change your life don’t happen in your brain.</li><li>6:30: When you have a big decision to make, ask yourself this question.</li><li>8:15: Holding yourself back because you feel guilty? Listen to this.</li><li>11:00: The single biggest quality you want in any partner? It’s always this.</li><li>14:00: There are always red flags before a breakup, whether you saw them or not.</li><li>16:15: You deserve nothing less than these qualities from your partner.</li><li>19:00: Try role playing with a friend to help you get the closure you crave.</li><li>23:45: Use this strategy to help you make a weighty decision.</li><li>27:40: Takeaway #1: Stop running away. Think of it this way instead.</li><li>30:15: Takeaway #2: If you want closure, you have to do these two things.</li><li>30:30: Takeaway #3: If you’re going to hold yourself back, own it. Don’t blame others.</li><li>31:00: Takeaway #4: You’re making it much harder in your head.</li><li>32:00: Takeaway #5: As soon as somebody doesn’t want you, they’re not your person.</li><li>33:30: Takeaway #6: Please stop doing this after a breakup.</li><li>35:00: Takeaway #7: If it’s not love, it’s a lesson.</li><li>35:30: Takeaway #8: Don’t be caught off guard by preparing ahead of time.</li><li>37:00: Takeaway #9: You don’t need someone else to feel complete.</li><li>38:00: Takeaway #10: Don’t let your fears hold you back.</li></ul><p> </p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank">Disclaimer</a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>
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