Mental Health
The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.
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Dr Emily - Grief Lightening
May 11, 2025 1h 26m<p>What would it look like if we were more open to grief?</p> <p>This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective.</p> <p>Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well.</p> <p>Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path. <br>Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear.</p> <p>And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support.</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4jKdlco">https://bit.ly/4jKdlco</a> </p> <p>If you would like to pre-order Em’s book <em>Unstuck</em>, click here: <a href="https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2">https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2</a></p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - <a href="https://bit.ly/3GGXCMA">https://bit.ly/3GGXCMA</a></li> <li>Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumour - <a href="https://bit.ly/4jK7CmV">https://bit.ly/4jK7CmV</a></li> <li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8">https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8</a></li> <li>Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image - <a href="https://apple.co/43iqzau">https://apple.co/43iqzau</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>The Grieving Brain - Mary-Frances O’Connor - <a href="https://bit.ly/4m55Mi3">https://bit.ly/4m55Mi3</a></li> <li>Self Compassion - Kristin Neff - <a href="https://bit.ly/4iQC25O">https://bit.ly/4iQC25O</a></li> <li>Wherever You Go, There You Are - Jon Kabat-Zinn - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Z5LeMo">https://bit.ly/3Z5LeMo</a></li> <li>Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - <a href="https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z">https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Stroebe and Schut Dual-Process Model of Grief - <a href="https://bit.ly/4kbIeqc">https://bit.ly/4kbIeqc</a></li> <li>Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Stages of Grief - <a href="https://bit.ly/45tThVu">https://bit.ly/45tThVu</a></li> <li>Meghan Riordan Jarvis’ work - <a href="https://bit.ly/3RTyy7v">https://bit.ly/3RTyy7v</a></li> </ul> <p>☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start</p> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>🩵To join our patreon community, <em>A Little More Imperfect,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift
May 4, 2025 1h 25m<p>Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully.</p> <p>Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children.</p> <p>In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right.</p> <p>Lauren, thank you for such a special episode.</p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD">https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD</a> </p> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>Till Death Do Us Part - Lauren Zonfrillo - <a href="https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z">https://bit.ly/4m7Dy6z</a></li> <li>Last Shot - Jock Zonfrillo - <a href="https://bit.ly/4iCyfJi">https://bit.ly/4iCyfJi</a></li> <li>Finding Meaning - David Kessler - <a href="https://amzn.to/44QgNNU">https://amzn.to/44QgNNU</a></li> </ul> <p>☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with</p> <ul> <li>National Centre for Childhood Grief - <a href="https://bit.ly/4iEMvkP">https://bit.ly/4iEMvkP</a></li> <li>Griefline - 1300 845 745</li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>🩵To join our patreon community, <em>A Little More Imperfect,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon)
Apr 27, 2025 55 min<p>It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain.</p> <p>After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD.</p> <p>Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD.</p> <p>Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths.</p> <p>This episode is a snippet from an <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of.</p> <p>If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: <a href="https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO" data-token-index="0">https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO</a></p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - <a href="https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ">https://bit.ly/42GsmEJ</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Alex Patridge - 12 Lie People with ADHD tell themselves - <a href="https://bit.ly/41cHcnd">ttps://bit.ly/41cHcnd</a></li> <li>Alex Patridge - How to understand ADHD Overwhelm in 35 seconds - <a href="https://bit.ly/4jWRq22">https://bit.ly/4jWRq22</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Celeste Barber’s Australian Story - Unfiltered - <a href="https://ab.co/42l6VsD">https://ab.co/42l6VsD</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating
Apr 20, 2025 1h 35m<p>Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is <em>really</em> great news for our brand.</p> <p>Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of <em>The Proof</em> podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science.</p> <p>In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease.</p> <p>Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat.</p> <p>And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day.</p> <p>Simon, thank you for all that you says.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL">https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL</a> </p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:</p> <ul> <li>Felice Jacka - Food For Thought - <a href="https://apple.co/4ciWgn5">https://apple.co/4ciWgn5</a></li> <li>Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight - <a href="https://apple.co/3OjRlXR">https://apple.co/3OjRlXR</a></li> <li>Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way to Your Top - <a href="https://bit.ly/3E3flgi">https://bit.ly/3E3flgi</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>The Proof is in the Plants - Simon Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/4lbj7VC">https://bit.ly/4lbj7VC</a></li> <li>The Skeptics’ Guide To The Universe - Steven Novella - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QUPYjI">https://bit.ly/3QUPYjI</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>The Proof with Simon Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XCCDjS">https://bit.ly/3XCCDjS</a></li> <li>The Proof - Menopause masterclass (Part 1) - <a href="https://bit.ly/42aAoXC">https://bit.ly/42aAoXC</a></li> <li>The Proof - Your menopause questions answered (Part 2) - <a href="https://apple.co/4cx0MhW">https://apple.co/4cx0MhW</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to research:</p> <ul> <li>Approx. 50% of cardiac deaths are sudden cardiac deaths 50% - <a href="https://bit.ly/4juCffP">https://bit.ly/4juCffP</a></li> <li>30 different plants a week study - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XIXORj">https://bit.ly/3XIXORj</a></li> <li>To know more about ApoB, and it’s link to cholesterol - <a href="https://bit.ly/42mRL6b">https://bit.ly/42mRL6b</a> & <a href="https://bit.ly/426dVLe">https://bit.ly/426dVLe</a></li> <li>The Mind Diet - <a href="https://bit.ly/42p3zFd">https://bit.ly/42p3zFd</a></li> <li>Mediterranean Diet - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cPqBKp">https://bit.ly/4cPqBKp</a></li> <li>To know more about the Carnivore diet - <a href="https://bit.ly/3RcMZmR">https://bit.ly/3RcMZmR</a> & <a href="https://bit.ly/426xvqT">https://bit.ly/426xvqT</a></li> <li>Creatine and cognition - <a href="https://bit.ly/4j8sd4e">https://bit.ly/4j8sd4e</a></li> <li>Impact of creatine on depression and CBT - <a href="https://bit.ly/3G401AL">https://bit.ly/3G401AL</a></li> <li>Impact of creatine on bone health for menopausal women - <a href="https://bit.ly/4cuahym">https://bit.ly/4cuahym</a> & <a href="https://bit.ly/424KxoD">https://bit.ly/424KxoD</a></li> <li>Impact of creatine on sleep deprivation - <a href="https://go.nature.com/4cvR0wC">https://go.nature.com/4cvR0wC</a></li> <li>Simon’s Prebiotics - 38TERA - <a href="https://bit.ly/4caa96Q">https://bit.ly/4caa96Q</a></li> </ul> <p>🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support:</p> <ul> <li>Eating Disorders Families Australia - <a href="https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5">https://bit.ly/3TLU7J5</a></li> <li>The Butterfly Foundation - <a href="https://bit.ly/48YCSZe">https://bit.ly/48YCSZe</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷If you want <em>A Little More Imperfects</em>, join our Patreon to get just that - <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength
Apr 13, 2025 1h 16m<p>Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her.</p> <p>CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love.</p> <p>In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today.</p> <p>In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you.</p> <p>Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U">https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U</a></p> <p>If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>💻 Things to checkout:</p> <ul> <li>Waangkiny - <a href="https://www.waangkiny.com/"></a><a href="https://www.waangkiny.com">https://www.waangkiny.com</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Once Were Warriors - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XPMxyJ">https://bit.ly/3XPMxyJ</a></li> </ul> <p>🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000. </p> <p>🩷If you want <em>A Little More Imperfects</em>, join our Patreon to get just that - <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>This episode of The Imperfects discusses domestic and family violence. If these topics are too much for you right now, then we suggest you skip this one and come back when you're ready.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On
Apr 6, 2025 1h 23m<p>Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will.</p> <p>To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove.</p> <p>Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice.</p> <p>Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity.</p> <p>To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XILzEe">https://bit.ly/3XILzEe</a></p> <p>To pre-order Dr. Em’s book <em>Unstuck,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2">https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2</a></p> <p>🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More - <a href="https://apple.co/4hZiVWx">https://apple.co/4hZiVWx</a></li> <li>Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - <a href="https://bit.ly/42phpsh">https://bit.ly/42phpsh</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out:</p> <ul> <li>Carer Gateway - <a href="https://bit.ly/41UEJhA">https://bit.ly/41UEJhA</a></li> </ul> <p>🩷If you want <em>A Little More Imperfects</em>, join our Patreon to get just that - <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - <a href="http://www.theimperfects.com.au">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Danielle Laidley PART 2 - Her Public Outing
Mar 30, 2025 48 min<p>This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below).</p> <p>In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity.</p> <p>A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others.</p> <p>To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2">https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2</a> </p> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo">https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - <a href="https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct">https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct</a></li> </ul> <p>☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start:</p> <ul> <li>QLife - 1800 184 527</li> <li>Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367</li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Danielle Laidley PART 1 - Her Private Struggle
Mar 30, 2025 1h 5m<p>Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman.</p> <p>An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic.</p> <p>Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes.</p> <p>In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy.</p> <p>Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self.</p> <p>You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – <a href="https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2">https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2</a> </p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss - <a href="https://apple.co/4hNT0RN">https://apple.co/4hNT0RN</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Don’t Look Away - Danielle Laidley - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo">https://bit.ly/3XrTkyo</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Revealed - Danielle Laidley: Two Tribes - <a href="https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct">https://bit.ly/3R8X6ct</a></li> </ul> <p>🖼️ If you want to join out patreon <em>A Little More Imperfects</em>, go to <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>☎ If you need support after listening to this episode, these are a few great places to start:</p> <ul> <li>QLife - 1800 184 527</li> <li>Rainbow Door - 1800 729 367</li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Let’s Talk About Hugh’s Open Letter
Mar 27, 2025 43 min<p>It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode.</p> <p>Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since.</p> <p>Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live.</p> <p>We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support.</p> <p>Love,</p> <p>The Imperfects xxx</p> <p>🎧 If you want to listen to Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People, click here - <a href="https://apple.co/4l4kw0m">https://apple.co/4l4kw0m</a></p> <p>💻 If you want to watch this full chat on YouTube, click here - <a href="https://youtu.be/wFrlUkqR8y4">https://youtu.be/wFrlUkqR8y4</a> </p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole… and Found Myself
Mar 23, 2025 1h 10m<p>Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day.</p> <p>Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability.</p> <p>In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort.</p> <p>This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?)</p> <p>*not the basket baller</p> <p>If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4iv72IO">https://bit.ly/4iv72IO</a></p> <p>🦁 Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Helen Carmichael - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hv90YU">https://bit.ly/4hv90YU</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick
Mar 16, 2025 1h 9m<p>Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans).</p> <p>With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream.</p> <p>In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear.</p> <p>Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward.</p> <p>Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved?</p> <p>Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz">https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz</a> </p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episode mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fVM8Bo">https://bit.ly/4fVM8Bo</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>Open When by Dr Julie Smith - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hq7y9T">https://bit.ly/4hq7y9T</a></li> <li>Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before by Dr Julie Smith <a href="https://bit.ly/3FkC2wH">https://bit.ly/3FkC2wH</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People
Mar 13, 2025 15 min<p>This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people.</p> <p>It may be confronting.</p> <p>Please take care when listening.</p> <p>Love,</p> <p>Hugh</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World
Mar 9, 2025 1h 35m<p>Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture.</p> <p>At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts.</p> <p>Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all.</p> <p>In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?”</p> <p>Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success.</p> <p>We talk to Hannah about being a part of <em>intimate</em> television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future.</p> <p>Hannah, we are <em>so</em> desperate to be your friend.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: <a href="https://bit.ly/41vzALg">https://bit.ly/41vzALg</a></p> <p>🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Grant Denyer - Self Worth Was Worth Fighting For - <a href="https://apple.co/4fyvmsj">https://apple.co/4fyvmsj</a></li> </ul> <p>🎟️ Things to go see</p> <ul> <li>Audrey at the Melbourne Women in Film Festival - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bvMHkq">https://bit.ly/4bvMHkq</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Latecomers - <a href="https://bit.ly/4kBLFaG">https://bit.ly/4kBLFaG</a></li> <li>Hannah’s speech at the National Press Club - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QJPzQZ">https://bit.ly/3QJPzQZ</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>I’ll Let Myself In by Hannah Diviney - <a href="https://bit.ly/3DjeffZ">https://bit.ly/3DjeffZ</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Dr Emily - Hope
Mar 2, 2025 1h 16m<p>Today, Dr Emily talks about hope.</p> <p>And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time.</p> <p>In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion.</p> <p>Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated.</p> <p>Psychological mic-drop.</p> <p>This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life.</p> <p>We <em>hope</em> you enjoy this one as much as we did.</p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/41j0pT1">https://bit.ly/41j0pT1</a></p> <p>📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book <em>Unstuck</em>, click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2">https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2</a></p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation - <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/dr-julia-baird-an-awe-full-conversation/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/dr-julia-baird-an-awe-full-conversation/</a> </li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Martin Seligman - Theory of Learned Hopelessness - <a href="https://bit.ly/3EY1oR2">https://bit.ly/3EY1oR2</a></li> <li>Rick Snyder - Hope Theory: Rainbows in the Mind - <a href="https://bit.ly/4bAbu6Z">https://bit.ly/4bAbu6Z</a></li> <li>Jamil Zacki - Hope for Cynics - <a href="https://www.jamil-zaki.com/"></a><a href="https://www.jamil-zaki.com">https://www.jamil-zaki.com</a></li> <li>Robyn Walser - Heart of ACT - <a href="https://amzn.to/4izIv5x">https://amzn.to/4izIv5x</a></li> <li>Barbara Frederikson - Reflections on Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals - <a href="https://bit.ly/3EY2yfl">https://bit.ly/3EY2yfl</a></li> <li>Nick Cave’s letter - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ETlr2O">https://bit.ly/3ETlr2O</a></li> <li>Victor Frankl - Man’s Search For Meaning - <a href="https://bit.ly/4iizuNM">https://bit.ly/4iizuNM</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Dacher Keltner’s work - <a href="https://bit.ly/3XfJpfe">https://bit.ly/3XfJpfe</a></li> <li>Obama’s ‘Hope’ poster - <a href="https://bit.ly/4kgkvG4">https://bit.ly/4kgkvG4</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat
Feb 23, 2025 53 min<p>Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025.</p> <p>In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?”</p> <p>He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch.</p> <p>Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy. Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again.</p> <p>Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation. </p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi">https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi</a> </p> <p>💿 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Love Fame Tragedy (Murph’s solo project) - <a href="https://apple.co/432zLQP">https://apple.co/432zLQP</a></li> <li>The Wombats new album Oh! The Ocean - <a href="https://apple.co/4gNrgvV">https://apple.co/4gNrgvV</a></li> </ul> <p>Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a><br><br><em data-stringify-type="italic"></em>If you would like to receive a weekly Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter, where <strong>you</strong> can answer this question yourself, click subscribe on our website <a href="http://www.theimperfects.com.au">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show!
Feb 20, 2025 16 min<p>It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).</p> <p>That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country! <br><br>It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!</p> <p>We would love and adore to see you there!</p> <p>🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – <a href="https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj">https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj</a> </p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8">https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8</a> </p> <p>If you would like to subscribe to A Little More Imperfects, click here – <a href="http://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned</p> <ul> <li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8">https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top
Feb 16, 2025 1h 53m<p>Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.</p> <p>Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?</p> <p>In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.</p> <p>So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!</p> <p>Sweet dreams x</p> <p>If you would like to watch this full video on YouTub, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4htdJLj" data-token-index="1">https://bit.ly/4htdJLj</a></p> <p>If you’d like to subscribe to our Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, sign up here: <a href="http://Patreon.com/theimperfects">Patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode:</p> <ul> <li>Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - <a href="https://apple.co/4e2Io05">https://apple.co/4e2Io05</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too - <a href="https://apple.co/3COk1pd">https://apple.co/3COk1pd</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out:</p> <ul> <li>Salutegenics Psychology - <a href="https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG">https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG</a></li> <li>Resilience First Aid - <a href="https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT">https://bit.ly/4dEYzQT</a> </li> <li>Matt Walker’s Website - <a href="http://www.sleepdiplomat.com">www.sleepdiplomat.com</a></li> <li>Matt Walker’s QQRT assessment - <a href="https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF">https://bit.ly/4b0ErbF</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Jerry Seinfeld - The Tim Ferriss Show - <a href="https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv">https://apple.co/3CQc6Iv</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>Why We Sleep by Matt Walker - <a href="https://bit.ly/3COHNSv">https://bit.ly/3COHNSv</a></li> <li>Michael Mosley’s Research - <a href="https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC">https://bit.ly/3WVkdKC</a></li> <li>Resilience First Peer Reviewed Research - <a href="https://bit.ly/3CB53n5">https://bit.ly/3CB53n5</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Professor Jeff Ilaff - TedTalk on Sleep - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G">https://bit.ly/3QhgB1G</a></li> <li>Matt Walker - REM sleep psychosis - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J">https://bit.ly/4gJmv6J</a></li> <li>Matt Walker - MasterClass on Dreaming - <a href="https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs">https://bit.ly/3CQMkUs</a></li> </ul> <p>💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs:</p> <p>*please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist</p> <ul> <li>Alfred Health - <a href="https://bit.ly/42SKw80">https://bit.ly/42SKw80</a></li> <li>Monash Health - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM">https://bit.ly/3ECiLGM</a></li> <li>Epworth Sleep Centre - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hzylBI">https://bit.ly/4hzylBI</a></li> <li>Melbourne Sleep Disorders Centre - <a href="https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS">https://bit.ly/4gDFcbS</a></li> <li>The Royal Melbourne Hospital Sleep Clinic - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y">https://bit.ly/3ELbm7Y</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss
Feb 9, 2025 1h 40m<p>The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning.</p> <p>We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy.</p> <p>Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship).</p> <p>To watch this full video on our YouTube, click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Er6W6g">https://bit.ly/3Er6W6g</a> </p> <p>To subscribe to A Little More Imperfects on Patreon, follow this link: <a href="http://Patreon.com/imperfects">Patreon.com/imperfects</a></p> <p>To subscribe to our newsletter, The Vulnerabilitea-Mail (which includes a reflective journalling question based on this episode), follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/42bYguo">https://bit.ly/42bYguo</a></p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Brooke Blurton - The Path of Most Resilience - <a href="https://apple.co/4e8XmkP">https://apple.co/4e8XmkP</a></li> <li>Michael Klim - The Race of His Life - <a href="https://apple.co/40PZZ7s">https://apple.co/40PZZ7s</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>Mick’s encounter with the shark - <a href="https://bit.ly/3CQa76V">https://bit.ly/3CQa76V</a></li> </ul> <p>⛳️Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Mick’s Charity Golf Day (all proceeds are donated to communities impacted by the 2022 Northern Rivers Floods) - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl">https://bit.ly/4eWUJnl</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect
Feb 2, 2025 28 min<p>Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby!</p> <p>On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!</p> <p>That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show.</p> <p>A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch.</p> <p>So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead.</p> <p>If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - <a href="https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects">https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI">https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI</a></p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - <a href="https://apple.co/4e2Io05">https://apple.co/4e2Io05</a></li> <li>Janelle Booker - Living with ADHD - <a href="https://apple.co/41nL456">https://apple.co/41nL456</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to buy:</p> <ul> <li>Our new journal,<em> My Imperfect Life -</em> <a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></li> </ul> <p>📃Things to subscribe to:</p> <ul> <li>Our newsletter, <em>The Vulnerabilitea-mail -</em> <a href="https://bit.ly/42bYguo">https://bit.ly/42bYguo</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status?
Jan 26, 2025 1h 35m<p>It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg.</p> <p>In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover.</p> <p>From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons.</p> <p>Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography.</p> <p>Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care.</p> <p>James, we thank you for your guidance.</p> <p>If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/#subscribepopup">here</a>!</p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3WwDguJ">https://bit.ly/3WwDguJ</a></p> <p> </p> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>James’ new podcast (that he makes with ANOTHER van Cuylenburg) You’re a Good Kid - <a href="https://apple.co/3E54MZR">https://apple.co/3E54MZR</a></li> <li>James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - <a href="https://apple.co/3UYXmgt">https://apple.co/3UYXmgt</a></li> <li>Esther Perel - Let’s Be Better Lovers - <a href="https://apple.co/3Af9OB6">https://apple.co/3Af9OB6</a></li> <li>Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - <a href="https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm">https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read</p> <ul> <li>Attached by Dr Amir Levine and Rachel S.F Heller M.A - <a href="https://amzn.to/3EeVDhe">https://amzn.to/3EeVDhe</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Teach Us Consent Website - <a href="https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0">https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0</a></li> <li>Three Sided Pillar (triangle of happiness) - <a href="https://bit.ly/42kntmc">https://bit.ly/42kntmc</a></li> </ul> <p>🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence or coercive control, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Imperfect Birth Stories with Sophie Walker
Jan 19, 2025 1h 2m<p>In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories.</p> <p>With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners.</p> <p>Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around.</p> <p>The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him.</p> <p>Sophie, it was such a pleasure.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw">https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw</a> </p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Australian Birth Stories Podcast - <a href="https://apple.co/4f3PgKx">https://apple.co/4f3PgKx</a> <ul> <li>Lisa Wipfli’s episode - <a href="https://apple.co/3CZ34sx">https://apple.co/3CZ34sx</a></li> <li>Lael Stone’s episode - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZhaZZD">https://bit.ly/3ZhaZZD</a></li> </ul> </li> <li>Lael Stone on The Imperfects: <ul> <li> Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans - <a href="https://apple.co/3V2vuIb">https://apple.co/3V2vuIb</a></li> <li>Take Care of Yourself - <a href="https://apple.co/4eAJNuw">https://apple.co/4eAJNuw</a></li> <li>Parent Yourself First - <a href="https://apple.co/3ZE28Tj">https://apple.co/3ZE28Tj</a></li> </ul> </li> <li>Martin Heppell on The Imperfects: <ul> <li>The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZerqqN">https://bit.ly/3ZerqqN</a></li> <li>Martin “Rac” Heppell - The other F word ….. FAILURE - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk">https://bit.ly/4fUkDIk</a></li> </ul> </li> <li>Jack Post - Natal Depression - <a href="https://apple.co/49AgxDb">https://apple.co/49AgxDb</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out:</p> <ul> <li>The danger of a single story TedTalk - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - <a href="https://bit.ly/4f16DM5">https://bit.ly/4f16DM5</a></li> <li>Australian Birth Stories Birth Class Course - <a href="https://bit.ly/3BdMgxc">https://bit.ly/3BdMgxc</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read: </p> <ul> <li>The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth by Sophie Walker - <a href="https://amzn.to/3EscPQu">https://amzn.to/3EscPQu</a> </li> </ul> <p>If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression or anxiety surrounding birth, these are a few great websites we’ve found</p> <ul> <li><a href="http://cope.org.au">cope.org.au</a></li> <li><a href="http://panda.org.au">panda.org.au</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Surprise! You’re Writing A Book!
Jan 16, 2025 34 min<p>B b b bonus episode!</p> <p>We proudly present to you <em>My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you.</em> That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work.</p> <p>With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, <em>My Imperfect Life</em> is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT).</p> <p>To celebrate the launch of <em>My Imperfect Life,</em> we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy).</p> <p>🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of <em>My Imperfect Life</em> that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – <a href="https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl">https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl</a></p> <p>📖 To just purchase <em>My Imperfect Life</em>, click here – <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/</a> </p> <p>📃 To become our penpal, join The VulnerabiliTea-mail, a weekly newsletter where we’ll send you one vulnerable question inspired by the current episode, to help you unpack your own imperfect life. Subscribe at <a href="http://theimperfects.com.au/" data-stringify-link="http://theimperfects.com.au" data-sk="tooltip_parent">theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>Nathan Cavaleri – The Ups & The Blues - <a href="https://apple.co/42aTmh6">https://apple.co/42aTmh6</a></li> <li>Michael Klim – The Race of His Life - <a href="https://bit.ly/4aiMyQr">https://bit.ly/4aiMyQr</a></li> <li>Rana Hussain – Belonging For Connection - <a href="https://apple.co/3NwftWC">https://apple.co/3NwftWC</a></li> </ul> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets?
Jan 12, 2025 1h 3m<p>There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality.</p> <p>Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets?</p> <p>In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware.</p> <p>Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did.</p> <p>Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh.</p> <ol> <li>I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me</li> <li>I wish I hadn’t worked so hard</li> <li>I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings</li> <li>I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends</li> <li>I wish that I had let myself be happier</li> </ol> <p>Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did.</p> <p>Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-what-are-your-future-regrets/">https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/</a></p> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>The Top Five Regrets of the Dying - Bronnie Ware - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ghIKkf">https://bit.ly/4ghIKkf</a></li> <li>Bronnie’s original blog post - Regrets of the Dying - <a href="https://bit.ly/4f2nmPd">https://bit.ly/4f2nmPd</a></li> <li>From Strength to Strength - Arthur C. Brooks - <a href="https://bit.ly/3BlahT1">https://bit.ly/3BlahT1</a></li> <li>Strong Female Character - Fern Brady - <a href="https://bit.ly/3Vl5Uya">https://bit.ly/3Vl5Uya</a></li> <li>Laughing Heart - Charles Bukowski - <a href="https://bit.ly/4g2DbGL">https://bit.ly/4g2DbGL</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Paul Kelly - I Wasted Time - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eZeWbc">https://bit.ly/4eZeWbc</a></li> <li>Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - <a href="https://bit.ly/48nT3Ax">https://bit.ly/48nT3Ax</a></li> </ul> <p></p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus
Dec 22, 2024 28 min<p>Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids.</p> <p>Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus?</p> <p>Nope, neither had we.</p> <p>That’s probably why he’s forgotten.</p> <p>Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world. </p> <p>A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas.</p> <p>All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM</p> <p>🎧Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4gns2zX</li> <li>Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs</li> <li>Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - https://apple.co/3DkUYKI</li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay</li> </ul> <p>🎟️ Things to buy tickets to:</p> <ul> <li>I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour <ul> <li>Australian Tickets - https://bit.ly/3DczzDx</li> <li>NZ Tickets - https://bit.ly/49BCuC4</li> </ul> </li> </ul><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum
Dec 15, 2024 1h 4m<p>You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far.</p> <p>We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase.</p> <p>In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv).</p> <p>Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon.</p> <p>If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU</p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i</li> <li>Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax</li> <li>Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7</li> <li>Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf</li> <li>Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL</li> <li>Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456</li> <li>Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs</li> <li>Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX</li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb</li> <li>Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl</li> <li>Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX</li> <li>Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF</li> </ul> <p>📱Things to check out:</p> <ul> <li>Wable - https://www.hellowable.com</li> </ul><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down
Dec 8, 2024 1h 28m<p>Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley.</p> <p>Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself.</p> <p>Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself.</p> <p>What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost.</p> <p>In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships.</p> <p>There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley).</p> <p>Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability.</p> <p>If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd">https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd</a></p> <p>ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf">https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf</a></p> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>Awake Academy - Layne Beachley and Tess Brouwer - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fNThEh">https://bit.ly/4fNThEh</a></li> <li>Beneath the Waves - Michael Gordon with Layne Beachley - <a href="https://bit.ly/410jgU2">https://bit.ly/410jgU2</a></li> <li>From Strength to Strength - Arthur C Brooks - <a href="https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD">https://bit.ly/3VCaZTD</a></li> <li>Build the Life You Want - Arthur C Brooks and Oprah Winfrey - <a href="https://amzn.to/3ZpgFAK">https://amzn.to/3ZpgFAK</a></li> </ul> <p>☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover):</p> <ul> <li>Aegyo Cafe - <a href="https://bit.ly/3BqMNMi">https://bit.ly/3BqMNMi</a></li> </ul><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill
Dec 1, 2024 1h 26m<p>Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects.</p> <p>In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom.</p> <p>Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance.</p> <p>This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready.</p> <p>Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us.</p> <p>To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE">https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE</a> </p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection - <a href="https://apple.co/4fE5V8n">https://apple.co/4fE5V8n</a></li> <li>Johann Hari - Why You Can’t Pay Attention - <a href="https://apple.co/4flaoMG">https://apple.co/4flaoMG</a></li> <li>Johann Hari (P1 1) - How Can We Change? - <a href="https://apple.co/40liAIJ">https://apple.co/40liAIJ</a></li> <li>Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? - <a href="https://apple.co/3UokTH2">https://apple.co/3UokTH2</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>The Magic Pill by Johann Hari - <a href="https://bit.ly/3NHoyw1">https://bit.ly/3NHoyw1</a></li> <li>Johann’s other books - <a href="https://johannhari.com/"></a><a href="https://johannhari.com">https://johannhari.com</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to look into:</p> <ul> <li>Prof. Tracey Mann research into dieting - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eKbDEB">https://bit.ly/4eKbDEB</a></li> <li>Bee Wilson’s research into baby food - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZtpklZ">https://bit.ly/3ZtpklZ</a></li> <li>Dr. Paul Kenny research into the obesity - <a href="https://bit.ly/3ZbtZsm">https://bit.ly/3ZbtZsm</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Jim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than Dementia
Nov 24, 2024 1h 37m<p>Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia.</p> <p>So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far.</p> <p>The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family.</p> <p>In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing.</p> <p>Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms.</p> <p>This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did.</p> <p>Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug">https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug</a> </p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Hold The Moment - <a href="https://apple.co/3YCOjUz">https://apple.co/3YCOjUz</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Still Alice - <a href="https://bit.ly/3YD5cyu">https://bit.ly/3YD5cyu</a></li> </ul> <p>🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point:</p> <ul> <li>Dementia Australia Helpline - 1800 100 500</li> <li>Dementia Australia - <a href="https://www.dementia.org.au/"></a><a href="https://www.dementia.org.au">https://www.dementia.org.au</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p> <p> </p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More
Nov 17, 2024 1h 5m<p>How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?</p> <p>These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.</p> <p>In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.</p> <p>However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).</p> <p>Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.</p> <p>So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.</p> <p>To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - <a href="https://bit.ly/4i1FETt">https://bit.ly/4i1FETt</a></p> <p>🎧Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3yGPick">https://apple.co/3yGPick</a></li> <li>Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - <a href="https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8">https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8</a></li> <li>Dr Emily - Truth v Harmony - <a href="https://apple.co/40pgYO7">https://apple.co/40pgYO7</a></li> </ul> <p>📖 Things to read:</p> <ul> <li>Let Go by Hugh van Cuylenburg - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fpridx">https://bit.ly/4fpridx</a></li> </ul> <p>💻 Things to check out:</p> <ul> <li>Fred Luskin’s research into Forgiveness - <a href="https://bit.ly/40DYgCC">https://bit.ly/40DYgCC</a></li> </ul> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
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Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts
Nov 10, 2024 1h 28m<p>You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.</p> <p>Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.</p> <p>Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.</p> <p>Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.</p> <p>In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.</p> <p>Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.</p> <p>Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.</p> <p>To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP">https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP</a></p> <p>🎧 Things to listen to:</p> <ul> <li>How To Write A Gratitude Letter - <a href="https://apple.co/3NGhccf">https://apple.co/3NGhccf</a></li> </ul> <p>📺 Things to watch:</p> <ul> <li>Peter Bol’s 2021 Olympic 800m Race - <a href="https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS">https://bit.ly/4fhNPbS</a></li> </ul> <p>📱Apps to download</p> <ul> <li>BBL - <a href="https://bit.ly/4hldXVd">https://bit.ly/4hldXVd</a></li> </ul><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>
