#282 – David Buss: Sex, Dating, Relationships, and Sex Differences
Lex Fridman Podcast 
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<p>David Buss is an evolutionary psychologist at UT Austin. He is one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology. His current research is on sex differences in mate selection, mate attraction, infidelity, and the emotions of jealousy, lust, and love. Please support this podcast by checking out our sponsors:<br /> – <b>Notion</b>: <a href="https://notion.com/startups">https://notion.com/startups</a> <br /> – <b>ExpressVPN</b>: <a href="https://expressvpn.com/lexpod">https://expressvpn.com/lexpod</a> and use code LexPod <br /> – <b>Roka</b>: <a href="https://roka.com/">https://roka.com/</a> and use code LEX <br /> – <b>Onnit</b>: <a href="https://lexfridman.com/onnit">https://lexfridman.com/onnit</a> <br /> – <b>Indeed</b>: <a href="https://indeed.com/lex">https://indeed.com/lex</a> </p> <p><b>EPISODE LINKS:</b><br /> David’s Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/profdavidbuss">https://twitter.com/profdavidbuss</a><br /> David’s Website: <a href="https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/">https://labs.la.utexas.edu/buss/</a><br /> When Men Behave Badly (book): <a href="https://amzn.to/3y3bRVM">https://amzn.to/3y3bRVM</a><br /> The Evolution of Desire (book): <a href="https://amzn.to/3kyBdTt">https://amzn.to/3kyBdTt</a><br /> Evolutionary Psychology (textbook): <a href="https://amzn.to/3LExU9e">https://amzn.to/3LExU9e</a><br /> Derogation of Competitors (research paper): <a href="https://bit.ly/38G4LMa">https://bit.ly/38G4LMa</a></p> <p><b>PODCAST INFO:</b><br /> Podcast website: <a href="https://lexfridman.com/podcast">https://lexfridman.com/podcast</a><br /> Apple Podcasts: <a href="https://apple.co/2lwqZIr">https://apple.co/2lwqZIr</a><br /> Spotify: <a href="https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8">https://spoti.fi/2nEwCF8</a><br /> RSS: <a href="https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/">https://lexfridman.com/feed/podcast/</a><br /> YouTube Full Episodes: <a href="https://youtube.com/lexfridman">https://youtube.com/lexfridman</a><br /> YouTube Clips: <a href="https://youtube.com/lexclips">https://youtube.com/lexclips</a></p> <p><b>SUPPORT & CONNECT:</b><br /> – Check out the sponsors above, it’s the best way to support this podcast<br /> – Support on Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman">https://www.patreon.com/lexfridman</a><br /> – Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/lexfridman">https://twitter.com/lexfridman</a><br /> – Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman">https://www.instagram.com/lexfridman</a><br /> – LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman">https://www.linkedin.com/in/lexfridman</a><br /> – Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/lexfridman">https://www.facebook.com/lexfridman</a><br /> – Medium: <a href="https://medium.com/@lexfridman">https://medium.com/@lexfridman</a></p> <p><b>OUTLINE:</b><br /> Here’s the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.<br /> (00:00) – Introduction<br /> (08:04) – Sex vs Violence<br /> (14:48) – Mating strategies<br /> (26:44) – Social construct of beauty<br /> (30:38) – Evolution of mating evaluation<br /> (34:40) – Mating selection desires<br /> (39:52) – Difficulties of monogamy<br /> (46:16) – Importance of male appearance<br /> (48:52) – Importance of wealth<br /> (52:08) – Penis and breasts<br /> (55:59) – Fashion<br /> (58:58) – Body objectification<br /> (1:06:33) – Wear sunscreen<br /> (1:13:29) – Gender<br /> (1:30:39) – What motivates humans<br /> (1:32:29) – Dominance and submissiveness<br /> (1:40:33) – Johnny Depp defamation trial<br /> (1:50:24) – Jealousy<br /> (1:58:45) – Mate poaching<br /> (2:02:58) – Polyamory<br /> (2:14:13) – Female vs Male sexuality<br /> (2:23:11) – Pornography<br /> (2:29:46) – Sex and Violence continued<br /> (2:38:55) – Cancel culture<br /> (2:50:38) – Elon Musk and Twitter<br /> (2:59:02) – Serial killers<br /> (3:04:55) – Advice for young people<br /> (3:16:57) – Love<br /> (3:22:57) – Mortality<br /> (3:27:40) – Meaning of life</p>
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