Why Do I Love the Way That I Love: The 4 Attachment Styles Explained
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<p>Why do you love the way that you love?</p><p> </p><p>How do you have the best relationships of your life (including the one with yourself)?</p><p>Today, Mel sits down with expert in attachment theory Thais Gibson to explain the framework to improve any relationship in your life.</p><p>Her work on the subconscious mind and personal transformation will empower you to set better goals and have happier and healthier relationships.</p><p> </p><p>Topics discussed include:</p><ul><li>How to have secure and healthy relationships (including your relationship with yourself)</li><li>What your “attachment style” means and the 4 types</li><li>How your subconscious mind drives a lot of what you do</li><li>What love is supposed to look like</li><li>How your attachment style impacts your personal goal-setting</li><li>The biggest limiting beliefs from childhood (which one is yours?)</li><li>How to figure out your attachment style</li><li>How to make your attachment style “secure”</li><li>The difference between “core wounds” and “core needs”</li><li>The 2 things you did in childhood that made you a people-pleaser</li><li>How to feel less anxious and overwhelmed in relationships</li><li>How your fear of abandonment shows up in your relationships</li><li>The one question to ask yourself before you argue with your partner</li><li>What your new love interest needs if they have a hard time trusting</li><li>How to reprogram your subconscious mind for healthier relationships</li></ul><p><br />You can purchase Thais’s latest book<i>, Learning Love: Build the Best Relationships of Your Life Using Integrated Attachment Theory</i>, here: <a href="https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG" target="_blank"><strong>https://a.co/d/i2Ae9vG</strong></a></p><p> </p><p>Follow Thais Gibson:</p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool" target="_blank"><strong>instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool</strong></a></p><p>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool" target="_blank"><strong>youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool</strong></a></p><p> </p><p>Watch the podcast episodes on YouTube: <a href="https://bit.ly/45OWCNr" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/45OWCNr</strong></a></p><p>Check out my book,<i> The High 5 Habit</i>: <a href="https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt" target="_blank"><strong>https://a.co/d/g1DQ8Pt</strong></a></p><p> </p><p>Follow Mel:</p><p>Instagram: <a href="https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/3QfG8bb</strong></a></p><p>The Mel Robbins Podcast Instagram: <a href="https://bit.ly/49bg4GP" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/49bg4GP</strong></a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a href="https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/46Mh0QB</strong></a></p><p>TikTok: <a href="https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/46Kpw2v</strong></a></p><p>Sign up for my newsletter: <a href="https://bit.ly/46PVnPs" target="_blank"><strong>https://bit.ly/46PVnPs</strong></a></p><p> </p><p>Want more resources? Go to the episode page <a href="http://www.melrobbins.com/podcasts/episode-130" target="_blank"><strong>here</strong></a>.</p><p><a href="https://www.melrobbins.com/disclaimer" target="_blank"><strong>Disclaimer</strong></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>
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