Selena Gomez ON: Befriending Your Inner-Critic & How to Speak to Yourself With More Compassion
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You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Today, I am talking to a good friend and celebrity, Selena Gomez. Selena is a globally and culturally celebrated artist, actor, producer, entrepreneur, and philanthropist of her generation. As a recording artist, Selena has sold more than 210 million singles worldwide and has over 45 billion global streams. Her upcoming biographical documentary, Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me, is out right now. In 2019, she launched her beauty line, Rare Beauty, exclusively with Sephora. As part of the partnership, Selena announced the Rare Impact Fund pledging to raise $100M for mental health services for individuals in underserved communities. Philanthropy and activism have been key pillars of her career and she's used her platform to advocate for many important causes. Selena has raised millions of dollars for charity including Global Citizen and Lupus Research Alliance.    Selena bravely tells her story about her long battle with mental health and how this led to her life mission to help spread mental health awareness around the world and provide mental health services for the less privileged. I get to deeply understand her inner thoughts on topics such as dealing with pressure of being a celebrity and the gossip that comes with it, finding self healing, embracing change, being one with your inner self, and living day by day being content, kind, and full of love to share.  Life isn’t a simple journey, but despite the complications, challenges, and struggles, we can always find it in our hearts to tap into our inner good and be compassionate, especially to ourselves.    What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:04:21 Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary 00:06:59 Sharing our darkest secrets with others 00:10:04 Befriending your own inner critic 00:13:39 Learning to be more compassionate towards yourself and others 00:18:59 Taking control of your own story 00:26:04 Getting asked frustrating questions 00:24:39 No one is perfect, even celebrities 00:27:40 How do you deal with imperfections? 00:33:03 Areas in your life that made you who you are 00:35:07 Embracing change 00:39:36 Mental health awareness 00:43:59 You have to be aware of people 00:48:10 How do you deal with fears? 00:51:23 What is your intention? 00:56:13 Sometimes parents project perfection around their children 00:59:57 Pain, suffering, growth 01:06:09 Wondermind - mental fitness 01:09:30 You’ll figure it out, keep going 01:12:18 Missteps parents may have taken 01:23:07 Producing the series 13 Reasons Why 01:27:50 Selena and Mandy on Final Five Episode Resources Selena Gomez | Website Selena Gomez | Facebook Selena Gomez | Twitter Selena Gomez | Instagram Selena Gomez | YouTube Do you want to meditate daily with me? Go to go.calm.com/onpurpose to get 40% off a Calm Premium Membership. Experience the Daily Jay. Only on Calm Want to be a Jay Shetty Certified Life Coach? Get the Digital Guide and Workbook from Jay Shetty  https://jayshettypurpose.com/fb-getting-started-as-a-life-coach-podcast/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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