Matthew Hussey ON: How to Get Over Your Ex & Find True Love in Your Relationships
About this episode
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon. Mathew Hussey sits down with Jay Shetty to talk about dealing with relationships. The way most of us struggle with finding the right person, when we expect too much from our partner, when we refuse to acknowledge that change is voluntary, and when the amount of energy we are willing to give to someone who isn’t at par with what we’re willing to give are the truths that are harder to accept. Mathew Hussey is an British life coach, a YouTube personality, and the author of the New York Times bestseller Get The Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve. His podcast, Love Life with Matthew Hussey, offers practical tips you can use right away to improve all of your relationships – romantic, family, friends, career, and the relationship you have with yourself. Win a limited edition, signed sampler box full of Jay & Radhi's favorite teas. Enter today! https://bit.ly/3jladpu Join the Sama Tea Founder's Club & enjoy exclusive perks and our private communi-TEA! https://bit.ly/37pPT0K What We Discuss with Matthew: 00:00 Intro 03:09 What’s your favorite story of love? 06:22 The importance of reevaluating what is actually important in a partner 12:44 It’s uncomfortable but maybe it’s teaching you something 21:21 When all the special moves don’t work and your genuine self comes out 23:56 The problem is people are falling in love too fast 25:47 How can you be nervous when you’re valuing the right things? 28:06 You obsess over what they could have been 32:59 Don’t be upset when you lose a poet, the poetry is the relationship 35:49 A moment where you genuinely are brave enough to let someone in and be seen 39:03 When you come out of an argument bleeding every time 44:31 People aren’t comfortable in being an area they can be criticized 47:32 The culture you create will have an impact in the people around you 50:53 Give an amount of energy you are willing to lose 55:34 Experiencing the endless ocean of disappointment 01:00:00 There is someone that uniquely vibes with your personality 01:03:35 You can’t change a person when they don’t want to 01:09:43 You’ve never been heartbroken, have you? 01:13:35 Staying in unhappy for a long time makes it difficult to entertain the the idea of leaving 01:18:40 The 30-Day Confidence Challenge 01:22:25 Matthew on Fast Five Episode Resources: Matthew Hussey | Twitter Matthew Hussey | Instagram Matthew Hussey | YouTube Matthew Hussey | Facebook How To Get The Guy Get The Guy Book Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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