Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control

About this episode

<p>Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.</p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail -&nbsp;<a href="https://www.theimperfects.com.au/">www.theimperfects.com.au</a></p> <p>&nbsp;</p> <p>Joining us in the Academy of Imperfection, Jess explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the unrelenting system of entrapment that many women find themselves in, including a detailed look at the history of coercive control, and the term &lsquo;perspecticide&rsquo;.</p> <p>Describing the importance of early intervention for young boys, and answering the question &lsquo;Why don&rsquo;t they just leave?&rsquo;, Jess discusses with Josh the difference between guilt and shame, and the fundamental impact of these emotions.</p> <p>This episode is compulsory listening for everyone (obviously, it&rsquo;s Jess Hill talking about one of the most significant issues in our country), but especially those who, in their quietest, most vulnerable moment, recognise themselves as a perpetrator and want to take the next steps to changing the cycle of trauma.</p> <p>Jess, we cannot thank you enough.</p> <p>If you&rsquo;d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: <a href="https://youtu.be/qPAi24DyWRc">https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPAi24DyWRc</a><br><br></p> <p>🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode</p> <ul> <li>Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men&rsquo;s Violence - <a href="https://bit.ly/45p2aBN">https://bit.ly/45p2aBN</a></li> <li>Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing - <a href="https://bit.ly/3SSvrND">https://bit.ly/3SSvrND</a></li> <li>An Imperfect Chat About Men - <a href="https://bit.ly/4n4ce9o">https://bit.ly/4n4ce9o</a></li> <li>Another Imperfect Chat About Men - <a href="https://bit.ly/4jUHQf7">https://bit.ly/4jUHQf7</a></li> </ul> <p>🎧Things to listen to</p> <ul> <li>The Trap - Why Do They Do It? - <a href="https://bit.ly/3G0H9D1">https://bit.ly/3G0H9D1</a></li> </ul> <p>📺&nbsp;Things to watch</p> <ul> <li>See What You Made Me Do - <a href="https://bit.ly/3STaUbW">https://bit.ly/3STaUbW</a></li> <li>Matt Brown TedTalk - <a href="https://bit.ly/4jP1RUc">https://bit.ly/4jP1RUc</a></li> </ul> <p>📖&nbsp;Things to read</p> <ul> <li>See What You Made Me Do by Jess Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/3HG8gno">https://bit.ly/3HG8gno</a></li> <li>The Reckoning by Jess Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/3FQyZNy">https://bit.ly/3FQyZNy</a></li> <li>Losing It by Jess Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/4ni3YD8">https://bit.ly/4ni3YD8</a></li> <li>She Is Not Your Rehab by Matt Brown with Sarah Brown - <a href="https://bit.ly/45In6Uz">https://bit.ly/45In6Uz</a></li> <li>Rape in Marriage by Diana E.H Russell - <a href="https://bit.ly/4n3q0Jr">https://bit.ly/4n3q0Jr</a></li> <li>Home Truths by Jess Hill - <a href="https://bit.ly/402SfOC">https://bit.ly/402SfOC</a></li> <li>The Brain That Changes Itself by Norman Doidge - <a href="https://bit.ly/4eejITp">https://bit.ly/4eejITp</a></li> <li>Shame and Pride by Donald Nathanson - <a href="https://bit.ly/4lsrc7V">https://bit.ly/4lsrc7V</a></li> <li>Three Planet Model by Marianne Hester - <a href="https://bit.ly/4e4sG5t">https://bit.ly/4e4sG5t</a></li> </ul> <p>💻Things to check out</p> <ul> <li>Yiliyapinya - <a href="https://yiliyapinya.org.au/about/">https://yiliyapinya.org.au/about/</a></li> <li>Inner Boy - She Is Not Your Rehab - Free 30 Day Program - <a href="https://bit.ly/4jPOdQA">https://bit.ly/4jPOdQA</a></li> </ul> <p>🚨If you, or someone you know, is exhibiting behaviour that may be concerning or problematic, call MensLine on 1300 78 99 78, or No To Violence on 1300 766 491.</p> <p>🚨If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.</p> <p>🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here -&nbsp;<a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel)&nbsp;<em>My Imperfect Life,</em>&nbsp;click here -&nbsp;<a href="https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP">https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP</a></p> <p>🩵To join our patreon community, <em>A Little More Imperfects,</em> follow this link - <a href="http://patreon.com/theimperfects">patreon.com/theimperfects</a></p> <p>🩷 AND you can subscribe to <em>A Little More Imperfects</em> through Apple Podcasts too, here <a href="http://apple.co/theimperfects">apple.co/theimperfects</a></p> <p>The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you&rsquo;re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.</p><p>See <a href="https://omnystudio.com/listener">omnystudio.com/listener</a> for privacy information.</p>