Gabor Maté: Why Your Trauma is Showing Up as Guilt, Fear, and Shame & How to Untrap Yourself from the Past
About this episode
Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame? How do we untrap ourselves from the past? Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive.  Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving.  In this interview, you'll learn: How to live with fear and anxiety How to deal with deep-rooted trauma How to handle grief and pain How to improve your personal growth Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man? 07:34 Tell Me Who You Are 11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us 13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time 17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday?  20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear 28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped? 31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People 36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt? 43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take 46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly  48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma 51:07 What is Integrative Thinking? 59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor”  01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow? 01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality? 01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities Episode Resources: Dr. Gabor Maté | Website Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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