Why The World’s #1 Pickup Artist Left The Game Behind - Neil Strauss - #789
About this episode
Neil Strauss is a journalist, writer, and an author. Neil was the world's most famous pickup artist who kickstarted much of the modern dating discourse. So looking back 20 years later, what has he come to realise about what really matters in life and how to find love and connection? Expect to learn the trajectory of Neil’s views on relationships over the years, how Neil reflects on his book The Game, why Neil is having a baby with his ex-wife, what went wrong with the world of pickup, why faking status is not such a great idea, how to measure success in a relationship, how to rid yourself of other people’s expectations and much more... Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and more from AG1 at https://drinkag1.com/wisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://www.shopify.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get up to 32% discount on the best supplements from Momentous at https://livemomentous.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Timestamps: (00:00) Neil’s Perspective on Relationships (03:25) Co-Parents But Not Partners (11:23) Letting Go of the Pickup Artist Identity (18:38) Our Current Mating Culture (23:10) Priorities of the Black Pill Community (31:32) The Current State of Men’s Mental Health (42:36) Can You ‘Game’ Love? (50:17) Advice to People Failing to Connect (58:45) Three Steps to Resolve Your Past (01:08:00) Asking Why Emotions Arise (01:19:05) Chris’s Therapy Experience (01:25:50) Explaining Enmeshment (01:31:54) How to Know Who You Really Are (01:40:02) Becoming More Self-Compassionate (01:46:33) What’s Next for Neil Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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