What Do People Really Want In A Partner? - Dr Paul Eastwick - #838

About this episode

Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher. What do people actually want in a partner compared to what they say they want? Paul is the lead author on largest study of its kind which was just released breaking down exactly this question. Expect to learn the #1 trait people actually look for in a partner, how well people know what they want, what Ideal Partner Preference-Matching is, the biases that affect mate evaluation, the sex differences in stated vs. revealed preferences, whether big data could improve dating app matching and much more… Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get the Whoop 4.0 for free and get your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Get $350 off the Pod 4 Ultra at https://eightsleep.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get a Free Sample Pack of all LMNT Flavours with your first box at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom (automatically applied at checkout) Timestamps: (00:00) Do People Know What They Want in a Partner? (03:40) Distinguishing Stated & Revealed Preferences (13:52) Biggest Discrepancies in Preferences (18:21) Sex Differences in Preferences (22:03) Black Pills & White Pills of the Study (31:32) Why People Secretly Want a Good Lover (38:59) Unanswered Questions From the Study (42:42) Biases in Selecting a Partner (48:18) The Unexplainable Sense of Falling in Love (51:38) Traits of People Who Can’t Retain a Partner (54:45) Have Mate Preferences Changed Over Time? (01:00:52) How We Actually Think About Our Partners (01:05:29) Where to Find Paul Extra Stuff: Read Paul's Study: https://osf.io/preprints/psyarxiv/fe56h Listen to Paul's Podcast: https://www.lovefactuallypod.com/ Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices