The Life-Changing Skill of Emotional Regulation - Dr Marc Brackett - #1014

About this episode

Dr. Marc Brackett is a professor at Yale University, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, and author. Why is it so hard to actually feel our emotions? In a world that tells us to “be more vulnerable,” many of us don’t even know what that really means. Are we being unregulated when we express emotion, or are we finally being human? How can we reconnect with what we feel so we can actually understand ourselves better? Expect to learn why only 1 in 5 adults can name more than three emotions they feel regularly, what emotional intelligence actually is, why we were taught such few emotional skills, how we can tell the difference between real regulation and repressed emotion, if it is possible to be too self-aware, how you can learn to reframe uncomfortable emotions—like anxiety or envy—into signals instead of shame and much more… Timestamps: (0:00) How Can We Recognise What We’re Feeling? (5:02) What Does it Mean to Regulate Emotion? (10:21) Why Were We Never Taught How to Regulate Our Emotions? (18:56) Why Does Emotional Suppression Come So Naturally? (24:40) Are People Truly Anxious? (34:14) How to Build Emotional Regulation (47:54) The Real Advantage of Becoming Emotionally Intelligent (01:01:32) The Difference Between Feeling Emotions and Processing Them (01:05:13) Why Being ‘Too Sensitive’ Is a Myth (01:19:15) Is It Possible to Be Too Self-Aware? (01:24:02) The First Step Toward Mastering Emotional Regulation (01:26:58) Where to Find Marc Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period from Shopify at https://shopify.com/modernwisdom Get a 15% discount & free shipping on Manscaped’s shavers at https://manscaped.com/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM15) Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Check our Dr Marc Brackett's book here: https://marcbrackett.com/dealing-with-feeling/ Extra Stuff: Get Marc's book: https://marcbrackett.com/dealing-with-feeling/ Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices