How to stop people-pleasing and get your time, energy and joy back with Emma Reed Turrell
About this episode
Hey everyone and welcome back to Motherkind. The show that is going to help you navigate the massive challenges of motherhood (and life) with more acceptance, ease, joy and purpose. I am so excited for this one. It is with Emma Reed Turrell who is a psychotherapist and author of Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live. Sounds good. Doesn't it? I am a people-pleaser in recovery, which you may have heard me talk about before, but it is such a huge part of my recovery and my life. And it is still very much a work in progress for me. My knee-jerk reaction is still to put others' feelings over my own. I still find it so hard to disappoint, upset, or even make another person angry. It’s a daily work in progress for me. In this incredible conversation, we chat about: How to know if you are a people pleaser Why we become people-pleasers How it shows up in motherhood How to begin to change that pattern This episode is about becoming more and more ourselves, more alive, joyful, and all the good stuff that people-pleasing blocks us from. And you're gonna want to stay right to the end to hear her gift, which is just beautiful. I hope you love it. Please do share it with any mothers that you think might identify with people-pleasing. As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there. GROUP COACHING PROGRAMME - STARTS 14TH OF SEPTEMBER 2022 Our next round of group coaching starts on the 14the of September. If you want to be coached by me and feel like now is your time. I'd love for you to join us. It is a small group of 10 who come together for 8 weeks led by me to explore topics like boundaries, energy, values journaling and much more. It is going to help you find clarity, connection and community. Head to motherkind.co for more information. ABOUT EMMA REED TURRELL Emma Reed Turrell grew up near Portsmouth and went on to read English at Queens’ College, Cambridge. Following ten years working in business, she returned to her earlier passion for psychology and retrained as a psychotherapist. Originally trained in Gestalt and Transactional Analysis, Emma has gone on to qualify in a range of therapeutic approaches, including CBT, EMDR, NLP and Hypnotherapy. Emma is also a Clinical Supervisor and runs a busy therapy practice alongside training and consulting. Following the success of her debut book, Please Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live, Emma is currently writing her second book and also presents chart-topping podcast Best Friend Therapy with Elizabeth Day. When she’s not working, Emma can be found walking along the seafront in her home town of Southsea with her two golden retrievers, Willow and Betty. Instagram: @emmareedturrell Twitter: @etcounselling MOTHERKIND PROGRAMMES AND RESOURCES FREEDOM FROM PERFECTIONISM: Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough. INSTAGRAM: @zoeblaskey - come engage with Zoe and our community over on Instagram for inspiration, tips, and sometimes a bit of humour to get us through our day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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