#34 | When You Die, Will They Know You Didn't Leave?

About this episode

<p>What happens when you die and your child doesn&#39;t understand death? What if they just think you walked away?</p><p>That&#39;s where this conversation ended up. It started with a story about a mum who overheard a dad talking about his autistic son and accused him of saying his life was harder than hers. It turned into something neither Gaz nor Andy were prepared for. Pre-recorded death videos. Whether your child needs to see your body. The arithmetic of outliving someone who might never understand why you&#39;re not there anymore.</p><p>They also talk about why parents of high-functioning autistic children are often fighting the system harder than anyone else, why dads stop telling their mates anything, and what happens when you&#39;ve been in combat mode so long you can&#39;t switch it off.</p><p>Plus: the Guardian photoshoot, the London Marathon in two weeks, a game-changing app for SEND parents landing in the UK, and Sean ran another half marathon for fun.</p><p>0:00 — Back from Cyprus, the Guardian photoshoot4:23 — The pronoun conversation follow-up5:37 — The dad who stopped telling his mates7:21 — The mum who switched9:39 — The &quot;top trumps&quot; problem in the community13:47 — Luke&#39;s story: when your child can&#39;t live with you16:04 — What happens when I die?17:33 — The pre-recorded death video18:40 — Love on the Spectrum and the parents who can&#39;t grow old22:30 — Everyone&#39;s struggles are relative27:51 — The system was worse 30 years ago34:24 — The Discord and epic fails43:16 — The app that&#39;s going to change things45:29 — London Marathon and Ambitious About Autism50:22 — Why we&#39;re terrible at replying to messages</p><p>If this helped, subscribe and leave a review. It helps other parents find us.</p><p>#AutismDadcast #Autism #Parenting #Neurodiversity #ASD #SEND</p>