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You 2.0: How To Say No

<p>Saying no to someone who asks for something is often easier said than done. Maybe it's a boss who wants you to take on a new assignment. Or your kid's teacher, seeking volunteers for a field trip. Or a friend who asks you to lend her money. How should we respond to these demands on our time, energy, and resources? This week, psychologist <a href="https://www.bauer.uh.edu/vpatrick/">Vanessa Patrick</a> explores why it's so hard to say no, and how we can set boundaries that will make it easier to do so. </p><p><i>If you haven't yet caught the first two episodes in this year's You 2.0 series, you can find them in this podcast feed, or on our website: </i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/you-2-0-the-gift-of-other-people/"><i>You 2.0: The Gift of Other People</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/taking-control-of-your-time/"><i>You 2.0: Taking Control of Your Time </i></a></p><p><i>Thanks for listening! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

You 2.0: Taking Control of Your Time

<p>Many of us feel like there aren't enough hours in the day. We struggle to make time for all the competing demands at work and at home, and inevitably feel like we're letting someone down. But what if there were a way to reclaim our time and, as a result, get more joy out of our lives?  In the second episode of this year's You 2.0 series, psychologist <a href="https://www.anderson.ucla.edu/faculty-and-research/marketing/faculty/mogilner-holmes">Cassie Mogilner Holmes</a> explains how we've fallen victim to the illusion of time scarcity, and what we can do to spend our time more wisely. </p><p><i>If you enjoy today's episode, check out last week's kick-off to our series, "You 2.0: The Gift of Other People."</i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

You 2.0: The Gift of Other People

<p>Are you someone who strikes up a conversation with the person next to you on the train? Or do you keep your eyes fixed on your phone? Do you offer gratitude to friends and family? Or do you assume that they already know how you feel? This week, in the kickoff to our annual You 2.0 series, we talk with psychologist <a href="https://www.chicagobooth.edu/faculty/directory/e/nicholas-epley" target="_blank">Nicholas Epley</a> about our interactions with other people, and how we can make them more rewarding.</p><p><i>If you enjoy today's episode, check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes: </i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/a-secret-source-of-connection/"><i>A Secret Source of Connection</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/mind-reading-how-others-see-you/"><i>How Others See You </i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/relationships-2-0-an-antidote-to-loneliness/"><i>Relationships 2.0: An Antidote to Loneliness</i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

You&apos;re Not the Boss of Me!

<p>Whether in your personal life or at work, you've probably experienced what it’s like to have people reject your requests. To be told that what you want is unfair, or heavy-handed. And you've likely been in the opposite position as well — pushing back against requests that step on your freedom. This week, we talk to psychologist <a href="https://www.dominican.edu/directory-people/benjamin-d-rosenberg">Benjamin Rosenberg</a> about how we respond to infringements on our sense of autonomy, and how we can avoid sparking this resistance in our interactions with other people. </p><p><i>If you know someone who would like today's episode, please share it with them! And if you enjoy our show, please consider trying a free seven-day trial of our podcast subscription, Hidden Brain+. If you use an iPhone, you can sign up at </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?ign-itscg=30200S&ign-itsct=hiddenbrain_podcasts"><i>apple.co/hiddenbrain</i></a><i>. If you use an Android device, you can find Hidden Brain+ at </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i>. Thanks for listening! </i></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Cure for Self-Importance

<p>When we meet new people, we’re often drawn to those with a commanding presence or a dazzling personality. But it turns out that a very different trait — humility — is important in the long term. This week, in the first of a two-part discussion, we talk with psychologist <a href="https://hope.edu/directory/people/van-tongeren-daryl/index.html">Daryl Van Tongeren</a> about different kinds of humility, and how this overlooked quality can play a powerful role in workplace dynamics and romantic relationships. </p><p><i>If you like today's episode, be sure to check out part two of our conversation, exclusively for Hidden Brain+ listeners. We talk with Daryl Van Tongeren about existential humility — being open to the idea we might be wrong about life's biggest unknowns. It's the episode called "Asking the Big Questions." To listen to Hidden Brain+ with a free seven-day trial, go to </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?ign-itscg=30200S&ign-itsct=hiddenbrain_podcasts"><i>apple.co/hiddenbrain</i></a><i> or </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i>. </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Where Truth Lies

<p>When we think about misinformation, we often focus on blatant errors or deliberate attempts to deceive us. But in recent years, social scientists have found that misinformation comes in many flavors — many of which are far more subtle than obvious falsehoods. These forms of misinformation prey on our mental blindspots, and take advantage of our passions and loyalties. This week, economist <a href="https://www.london.edu/faculty-and-research/faculty-profiles/e/edmans-a" target="_blank">Alex Edmans</a> explores the many insidious forms of misinformation, and how we can all get better at separating fact from fiction.</p><p><i>For more of our work, please consider joining our podcast subscription. Hidden Brain+ is where you’ll find exclusive interviews and deeper dives into the ideas we explore on the show. You can try Hidden Brain+ with a free seven-day trial at </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?ign-itscg=30200S&ign-itsct=hiddenbrain_podcasts"><i>apple.co/hiddenbrain</i></a><i>. Or if you’re an Android user, sign up at </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i>.</i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

How To Be Alone

<p>We're always told to reach for that next ring, work that third job, go to that boisterous party after a long day at work. You only live once ... right? But psychologist <a href="https://www.reading.ac.uk/pcls/staff/netta-weinstein">Netta Weinstein</a> says that when we constantly engage in achievement and distraction, we lose something essential about ourselves. This week, she makes a case for solitude, and examines what happens when we seek a quieter, more reflective interior life.</p><p><i>If you like today's episode, check out our two-part series on mindfulness:</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/seeking-serenity-part-1/"><i>Seeking Serenity: Part 1</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/seeking-serenity-part-2/"><i>Seeking Serenity: Part 2</i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Changing Our Mental Maps

<p>As we move through the world, it's easy to imagine we're processing everything that happens around us and then deciding how to respond. But psychologist and neuroscientist <a href="https://www.utm.utoronto.ca/psychology/people/norman-farb">Norman Farb</a> says our brains actually navigate the world by coming up with mental maps. These maps act like an autopilot system, allowing us to navigate our lives more efficiently. But sometimes, they can lead us astray, leaving us stuck on a path of negativity and unhappiness. This week, we talk with Norman Farb about how we can update our internal maps and see the world more clearly. </p><p><i>If you like this episode, be sure to check out part two of our chat with Norman Farb for Hidden Brain+. That episode is called "Making Sense." You can try Hidden Brain+ for free with a seven-day trial by going to </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i> or </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?mt=2&ls=1&itscg=30200S&itsct=hiddenbrain_podcasts&ct=hiddenbrain_podcasts&at=1010l3ab3"><i>apple.co/hiddenbrain</i></a><i>. </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Out of the Rabbit Hole

<p>Cognitive scientist <a href="https://icsr.info/?team=dr-nafees-hamid">Nafees Hamid</a> studies the minds of people drawn to radical or fringe ideas. This week, he takes us on a deep dive into the motivations of people on the brink of extremism — and those who have already been radicalized. We examine what prompts people to turn to violence, and how to pull them back from the seductive appeal of extremist ideas.</p><p><i>Interested in learning more about the themes and ideas we discussed today? Check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes:</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/romeo-juliet-in-rwanda/"><i>Romeo and Juliet in Kigali</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/moral-combat/"><i>Moral Combat</i></a></p><p><i>Our podcast subscription, Hidden Brain+, is now available across devices and podcast platforms. You can join on either </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750"><i>Apple Podcasts </i></a><i>or via our </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>Patreon page</i></a><i>. Thanks for your support of the show — we truly appreciate it! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Befriending Your Inner Voice

<p>You know that negative voice that goes round and round in your head, keeping you up at night? When that negative inner voice gets switched on, it’s hard to think about anything else. Psychologist <a href="https://lsa.umich.edu/psych/people/faculty/ekross.html">Ethan Kross</a> has a name for it: chatter. In this favorite conversation from 2022,  we talk with Ethan about how to keep our negative emotions from morphing into chatter. </p><p><i>Our podcast subscription, Hidden Brain+, is now available across devices and podcast platforms. You can join on either </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750"><i>Apple Podcasts </i></a><i>or via our </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>Patreon page</i></a><i>. Thanks for your support of the show — we truly appreciate it! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Making the World Sparkle Again

<p>Across every domain of our lives, our minds have a tendency to get accustomed to things. In fact, the brain seems evolutionarily designed to focus on the new and unexpected, on novel threats and opportunities. In our daily lives, this means we take wonderful things for granted. We cease to appreciate amazing people, or the good fortune of being healthy. This week, neuroscientist <a href="https://affectivebrain.com/?page_id=161">Tali Sharot</a> explains why we get used to things — and how to see with fresh eyes.</p><p><i>Our podcast subscription, Hidden Brain+, is now available across platforms and devices. You can sign up for a free seven-day trial at </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>support.hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i> or </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>apple.co/hiddenbrain</i></a><i>. Your subscription provides key support to help us build you many more episodes of Hidden Brain. We’re truly grateful. </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Our God-Shaped Brains

<p>Some think of religious faith as just that: a leap of faith. But psychologists are increasingly filling in the gaps in our understanding of how beliefs shape — and are shaped by — the human mind. This week, psychologist <a href="https://psych.ubc.ca/profile/ara-norenzayan/">Ara Norenzayan</a> explores features in the brain that are tied to our capacity for faith. And he shows how all of us, both religious and non-religious people, can use this knowledge to find more meaning in our lives.</p><p><i>For more of our reporting on religion and the mind, be sure to check out our episode "</i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/creating-god/"><i>Creating God</i></a><i>."</i><br /> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Why You Feel Empty

<p>Have you ever had an unexplainable feeling of emptiness? Life seems perfect - and yet - something is missing. This week, sociologist <a href="https://hip.emory.edu/faculty/bios/keyes_corey.html" target="_blank">Corey Keyes</a> helps us understand where feelings of emptiness come from, how to navigate them and why they're more common than we might assume.</p><p><i>If you missed it, make sure to listen to last week's episode on </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/why-trying-too-hard-can-backfire-on-you/" target="_blank"><i>Why Trying Too Hard Can Backfire On You</i></a><i>. Thanks for listening!</i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Why Trying Too Hard Can Backfire On You

<p>Thinking is a human superpower. On a daily basis, thinking and planning and effort bring us innumerable benefits. But like all aspects of human behavior, you can sometimes get too much of a good thing. This week, we talk with philosopher <a href="https://philosophy.ubc.ca/profile/edward-slingerland-iii/">Ted Slingerland</a> about techniques to prevent overthinking, and how we can cultivate the under-appreciated skill of letting go. </p><p><i>To hear more of our conversation with Ted Slingerland, be sure to check out our Hidden Brain+ episode with him, available now. You can join Hidden Brain+ via </i><a href="https://www.patreon.com/HiddenBrain"><i>Patreon</i></a><i> or </i><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?ign-itscg=30200S&ign-itsct=hiddenbrain_podcasts"><i>Apple Podcasts</i></a><i>. Thanks for listening! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Innovation 2.0: Do Less

<p>The human drive to invent new things has led to pathbreaking achievements in medicine, science and society. But our desire to create can keep us from seeing one of the most powerful paths to progress: subtraction. In a favorite conversation from 2022, engineer <a href="https://engineering.virginia.edu/faculty/leidy-klotz">Leidy Klotz</a> shares how streamlining and simplifying is sometimes the best path to innovation. </p><p><i>Today's episode concludes our Innovation 2.0 series. If you've enjoyed these episodes, please tell a friend about them! They can find all of the stories in this series in this podcast feed, or at https://hiddenbrain.org/. Thanks for listening! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Innovation 2.0: Shortcuts and Speed Bumps

<p>Most of us love to brainstorm with colleagues. But so often, our idea-generating sessions don't lead to anything tangible. Teams fill up walls with sticky notes about creative possibilities and suggestions for improvement, but nothing actually gets implemented. Some researchers even have a name for it: "innovation theater." This week, we explore the science of execution. Psychologist <a href="https://casbs.stanford.edu/people/robert-i-sutton">Bob Sutton</a> tells us how to move from innovation theater . . . to actual innovation.</p><p><i>You can find all the episodes in our Innovation 2.0 series in this podcast feed, or on our website, </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/"><i>hiddenbrain.org</i></a><i>. </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Innovation 2.0: The Influence You Have

<p>Think about the last time you asked someone for something. Maybe you were nervous or worried about what the person would think of you. Chances are that you didn’t stop to think about the pressure you were exerting on that person. This week, we continue our Innovation 2.0 series with a 2020 episode about a phenomenon known as as “egocentric bias.” We talk with psychologist <a href="https://www.ilr.cornell.edu/people/vanessa-bohns">Vanessa Bohns</a> about how this bias leads us astray, and how we can use this knowledge to ask for the things we need. </p><p><i>Did you catch the first two episodes in our Innovation 2.0 series? You can find them in this podcast feed or on </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/"><i>our website</i></a><i>. And if you're enjoying this series, please share it with a friend or family member. Thanks! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Innovation 2.0: Multiplying the Growth Mindset

<p>Have you ever been in a situation where you felt that people wrote you off? Maybe a teacher suggested you weren't talented enough to take a certain class, or a boss implied that you didn't have the smarts needed to handle a big project. In the latest in our "Innovation 2.0 series," we talk with <a href="https://psych.indiana.edu/directory/faculty/murphy-mary.html">Mary Murphy</a>, who studies what she calls "cultures of genius." We'll look at how these cultures can keep people and organizations from thriving, and how we can create environments that better foster our growth.</p><p><i>Do you know someone who'd find the ideas in today's episode to be useful? Please share it with them! And if you liked today's conversation, you might also like these classic Hidden Brain episodes: </i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/edge-effect/"><i> The Edge Effect</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-secret-to-great-teams/"><i><strong>The Secret to Great Teams</strong></i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/you-2-0-dream-jobs/"><i><strong>Dream Jobs</strong></i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Innovation 2.0: How Big Ideas Are Born

<p>Why is it so hard to guess where we're meant to be? To predict where we'll end up? Nearly all of us have had the experience of traveling down one road, only to realize it's not the road for us. At the University of Virginia, <a href="https://www.darden.virginia.edu/faculty-research/directory/saras-d-sarasvathy">Saras Sarasvathy</a> uses the lens of entrepreneurship to study how we plan and prepare for the future. We kick off our new "Innovation 2.0" series by talking with Saras about how we pursue goals and make decisions.</p><p><i>Do you know someone who might benefit from our conversation with Saras about expert entrepreneurs? Please share it with them if so! And be sure to check out our other conversations about how to get out of ruts and figure out a path forward: </i></p><p><i>Who Do You Want to Be?</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/you-2-0-how-to-break-out-of-a-rut/"><i>You 2.0 : How to Break Out of a Rut</i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Parents: Keep Out!

<p>If you're a parent or a teacher, you've probably wondered how to balance play and safety for the kids in your care. You don't want to put children in danger, but you also don't want to rob them of the joy of exploration. This week, we talk with psychologist <a href="https://www.bc.edu/bc-web/schools/morrissey/departments/psychology-neuroscience/people/affiliated-and-emeritus/peter-gray.html">Peter Gray</a> about how this balance has changed — for parents and children alike — and what we can do about it.</p><p><i>For more of our reporting on children and parents, check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes:</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/kinder-gardening/">Kinder-Gardening</a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/bringing-up-baby/">Bringing Up Baby </a></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Curious Science of Cravings

<p>We've all had those days when all we want is a little treat. Maybe it's a bag of chips, an ice cream sundae or a glass of wine. But sometimes, these desires become all-consuming. This week on the show, psychiatrist<a href="https://www.brown.edu/public-health/mindfulness/people/judson-brewer-md-phd" target="_blank"> Judson Brewer</a> helps us understand the science of cravings, and how we should respond to them. </p><p><i>If you liked today's conversation, be sure to check out other Hidden Brain episodes about ways to regain a feeling of control over your life: </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/creatures-of-habit/" target="_blank"><i>Creatures of Habit</i></a><i> and </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/taking-control-of-your-time/" target="_blank"><i>Taking Control of Your Time</i></a><i>.</i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

What Is Normal?

<p>Anthropologist <a href="https://www.uwstout.edu/directory/pearsont">Tom Pearson</a> was devastated after his daughter Michaela was diagnosed with Down syndrome. When he began to examine that emotional response, he found himself wrestling with questions that have roiled his field for decades. Early anthropologists would often compare people of different backgrounds and abilities, asking questions like: How is one group different from another? Which one is stronger or smarter? And how do we understand people who don’t fit our expectations? This week, we talk with Pearson about his family’s story, and the evolution of our thinking on disability and difference.</p><p>If you liked today's show, be sure to check out these classic Hidden Brain episodes:</p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/emma-carrie-vivian/">"Emma, Carrie, Vivian"</a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/why-youre-smarter-than-you-think/">"Why You're Smarter than You Think"</a></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Transformative Ideas of Daniel Kahneman

<p>If you've ever taken an economics class, you were probably taught that people are rational. But about 50 years ago, the psychologists Daniel Kahneman and Amos Tversky began to chip away at this basic assumption. In doing so, they transformed our understanding of human behavior. This week, we remember Kahneman, who recently died at the age of 90, by revisiting our 2018 and 2021 conversations with him. </p><p><i>If you enjoyed this look at the work of Daniel Kahneman, you might also enjoy our conversations about behavioral economics with Kahneman's friend and collaborator Richard Thaler: </i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/misbehaving-with-richard-thaler/"><i>Misbehaving with Richard Thaler </i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/follow-the-anomalies/"><i>Follow the Anomalies </i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Are You Listening?

<p>Have you ever sat across from your spouse, colleague or friend and realized that while they may be hearing what you're saying, they aren't actually listening? Poor listening can lead to arguments, hurt feelings, and fractured relationships. But the good news is that active, thoughtful listening can profoundly benefit both people in the conversation. This week on the show, psychologist <a href="https://guyitzchakov.haifa.ac.il/">Guy Itzchakov</a> helps us understand where interactions go awry, and how to become a more attentive listener. </p><p><i>For more of our work on how to better connect with the people in your life, check out these episodes:</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/why-conversations-go-wrong/" target="_blank"><i> Why Conversations Go Wrong</i></a><i> with Deborah Tannen</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/a-secret-source-of-connection/" target="_blank"><i>A Secret Source of Connection</i></a><i> with Amit Kumar</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/what-makes-relationships-thrive/"><i>Relationships 2.0: What Makes Relationships Thrive</i></a><i> with Harry Reis</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/relationships-2-0-how-to-keep-conflict-from-spiraling/"><i>Relationships 2.0: How to Keep Conflict from Spiraling</i></a><i> with Julia Minson </i></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

The Ventilator

<p>Many of us believe we know how we’d choose to die. We have a sense of how we’d respond to a diagnosis of an incurable illness. This week, we revisit a 2019 episode featuring one family’s decades-long conversation about dying. What they found is that the people we are when death is far in the distance may not be the people we become when death is near.</p><p><i>If you enjoyed today's episode, here are some more classic Hidden Brain episodes you might like:</i></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-tale-of-the-cowboy-philosopher/"><i>The Cowboy Philosopher</i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/when-you-need-it-to-be-true/"><i>When You Need It To Be True </i></a></p><p><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/me-myself-and-ikea/"><i>Me, Myself, and Ikea </i></a></p><p><i>Thanks for listening! </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Escaping the Matrix

<p>A little more than a decade ago, researchers began tracking an alarming trend: a dramatic uptick in anxiety and depression among young Americans. Psychologist <a href="https://www.stern.nyu.edu/faculty/bio/jonathan-haidt">Jonathan Haidt</a>, like many other researchers, says the increase is related to our use of social media and devices. But he believes it’s also deeper than that — connected to our deepest moral beliefs and how they shape the way we view the world. He says there are simple steps we can take to improve the mental health of kids growing up in the smartphone era.</p><p><i>For more of our work on how technology is shaping our lives, check out our two-part series </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-paradox-of-pleasure/"><i>"The Paradox of Pleasure"</i></a><i> and </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-path-to-enough/"><i>"The Path to Enough."</i></a><i>  And don't miss our classic episode on social media, </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/screaming-into-the-void/"><i>"Screaming into the Void."</i></a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

Fear Less

<p>Fear is a normal and healthy response to things that may harm us. But fear can also hold us back from doing the things we want to do. This week, we talk to psychiatrist and neuroscientist <a href="https://www.starclab.org/members/arash-javanbakht">Arash Javanbakht</a> about the psychology of fear — how it helps us, how it hurts us, and what we can do to harness it.</p><p><i>For more on the science of fear and anxiety, including how you can overcome it, check out our episode </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/a-better-way-to-worry/"><i>A Better Way to Worry.</i></a></p><p> </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

US 2.0: Lincoln&apos;s Dilemma

<p>Over the past few weeks, we've been exploring the psychology of partisanship, and how to effectively handle disagreements with those around us. This week, we conclude our US 2.0 series by turning to the past. We talk with journalist <a href="https://www.npr.org/people/4080709/steve-inskeep">Steve Inskeep</a> about how one of the most important leaders in American history — Abraham Lincoln — grappled with the pressing moral question of his time. When, if ever, is it worth compromising your own principles for the sake of greater progress?</p><p><i>If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to check out our 2018 conversation about Thomas Jefferson with historian Annette Gordon-Reed. It's the episode called "A Founding Contradiction" in this podcast feed, or you can </i><a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/the-founding-contradiction/"><i>listen on our website</i></a><i>.  </i></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

US 2.0: Not at the Dinner Table

<p>We typically divide the country into two distinct groups: Democrats and Republicans. But what if the real political divide in our country isn’t between “left” and “right”? What if it’s between those who care intensely about politics, and those who don’t? This week, we bring you a favorite 2020 conversation with political scientist <a href="https://lsa.umich.edu/comm/people/regular-faculty/yanna.html">Yanna Krupnikov</a>, who offers an alternative way to understand Americans’ political views.</p><p>For more of our reporting on the intersection between politics and psychology, check out our episode about <a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/passion-isnt-enough/">political hobbyism</a>. You might also like this <a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/our-politics-our-parenting/">classic episode</a> about how we come to our political values and beliefs. Thanks for listening! </p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>

US 2.0: Living With Our Differences

<p>Conflicts are inevitable — both at a global scale and in our personal lives. This week, in the latest in our US 2.0 series, psychologist <a href="https://sps.columbia.edu/faculty/peter-t-coleman-phd">Peter Coleman</a> explains how minor disagreements turn into major rifts, and how we can defuse even the most salient of disputes in our lives.</p><p><strong>Interested in learning more?</strong></p><p>For additional ideas about how to keep conflict from spiraling, check out our conversation with researcher <a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/relationships-2-0-how-to-keep-conflict-from-spiraling/">Julia Minson</a>. And for a look at how violence shapes political outcomes on a global scale, be sure to listen to our interview with political scientist <a href="https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/how-to-change-the-world/">Erica Chenoweth. </a></p><br/> <p>Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See <a href="https://pcm.adswizz.com">pcm.adswizz.com</a> for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.</p>