How To Overcome A Difficult Childhood - Vienna Pharaon - #790

About this episode

Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an author. Learning to understand yourself can be the most powerful form of self-care. It helps you fix bad habits and improve your relationships with others. But how do you actually begin to understand who you are, and how do you start the process of becoming unstuck? Expect to learn how to reconcile what you needed as a child emotionally but never actually got, where your patterns in life come from, why people have so much resistance around opening up about their past and their family, how to avoid getting stuck wallowing in your history, Vienna’s favourite questions people should ask of themselves, how you can unwind your patterns and much more... Sponsors: See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: https://chriswillx.com/deals Get $150 discount on Plunge’s amazing sauna or cold plunge at https://plunge.com (use code MW150) Get a 20% discount on Nomatic’s amazing luggage at https://nomatic.com/modernwisdom (use code MW20) Get an exclusive discount from Surfshark VPN at https://surfshark.deals/MODERNWISDOM (use code MODERNWISDOM): Timestamps: (00:00) The Unresolved Past (06:23) Why We Resist Opening Up About Our Past (11:22) The Bravery of Confronting Your Mistakes (14:53) Vienna’s Most Common Clientele (17:19) Reluctance to Being Up Issues With Parents (22:41) How Often You Need to Speak to People From Your Past (27:03) What If You Don’t Remember Much of Childhood? (30:44) Convincing Men to Be Vulnerable (33:23) What Do We Outsource Our Worth to? (37:55) Feeling a Sense of Authentic Belonging (42:30) Why You Don’t Feel Like a Priority to Others (45:20) How to Heal the Wound of Safety (55:20) Uncomfortable Questions to Ask Yourself (59:06) What Does Origin Healing Look Like? (01:06:14) Fixing Conflict, Communication & Boundaries (01:08:56) A Healthy Use of Boundaries (01:13:42) Can We Actually Correct Our Programming? (01:18:07) Giving Yourself More Compassion (01:19:20) Where to Find Vienna Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: https://chriswillx.com/books Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom Episodes You Might Enjoy: This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠ How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠ The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices