Defining Healthy Masculinity & How to Build It | Terry Real

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Terry Real is a therapist and best-selling author expert on male emotional health and how men can build the skills for healthy relating to others: in relationships, work, friendships and to themselves. We discuss how mixed and ever-changing messages about what masculinity is are impacting the mental and physical health of men and boys. Terry explains how learning the skill of "relationality" leads to improvements in all aspects of boys' and men's lives and shares practical tools for how to do that. We also discuss the essential role of having a close male community to build confidence and self-esteem. This conversation offers actionable guidance for boys, men and women seeking to build healthier relationships with themselves and others. Episode show notes: https://go.hubermanlab.com/NqaGZF0 *Thank you to our sponsors* AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman David: https://davidprotein.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Waking Up: https://wakingup.com/huberman *Huberman Lab* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hubermanlab Threads: https://www.threads.net/@hubermanlab X: https://x.com/hubermanlab Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hubermanlab TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@hubermanlab LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrew-huberman Website: https://www.hubermanlab.com Newsletter: https://www.hubermanlab.com/newsletter *Terry Real* Website: https://terryreal.com Books: https://terryreal.com/books Relational Life Institute: https://relationallife.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/realterryreal YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@realterryreal Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TerryRealRLI Relationship Patterns Quiz: https://quiz.terryreal.com/quiz *Timestamps* 00:00:00 Terry Real 00:02:53 Men & Masculinity, Political vs Psychological Patriarchy, Feminism 00:07:39 Stoicism, Vulnerability, Traditional Masculinity, Emotions 00:10:50 Sponsors: BetterHelp & David 00:13:14 Masculinity Across Decades, Giving; Gratification vs Relational Joy 00:21:54 Healthy Emotional Expression, Connection & Vulnerability; Self-Esteem 00:31:17 Feeling Emotions, Tools: Asking For Help; Fights & “What Do You Need?” 00:35:10 Self-Esteem & Relationship Accountability; Criticism, Redefining Strength 00:40:47 Sponsor: AG1 00:42:32 Healthy Criticism, Tool: Women & Articulating Needs 00:50:21 Childlike Behavior, Wise Adult & Trauma, Tool: Relational Mindfulness 00:58:11 Tool: Responsible Distance Taking; Self-Interest; Relationship “Biosphere” 01:08:14 Alcohol, Men & Friends, Loneliness, Men’s Retreat 01:17:51 Fraternities, Men’s Groups, Tool: Relationship vs Individual Support 01:25:39 Sponsor: Function 01:27:27 Lack of Male Friends, Hiking, Community, Teaching Young Men 01:36:11 Cannabis, Alcohol, Young Men & Purpose, Flexibility & Manliness 01:40:40 Work, Life Purpose & Men; Skillful Warriors 01:45:01 Absent Fathers; Early Childhood & Proper Nurturing; Caretaking 01:53:24 Sponsor: Waking Up 01:54:47 Women & Speaking Relationally, Objectivity Battle 01:59:02 Addiction & Disconnection, 12-Step Meetings & Fellowship 02:08:04 Pornography, Internet, Intensity vs Intimacy; Optimization 02:11:57 Tool: Families & Hanging Out; Relational Joy; Relational Recovery 02:22:29 Giving Criticism, Tools: Make Requests; Feedback Wheel 02:28:21 Gratitude, Aging; Skillful Fighting in Relationship & Repair 02:34:17 Men & Self-Esteem, Mentors, Tool: Inner Dialogue without Harshness 02:44:00 Y Chromosome, Wholeness 02:48:00 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter #HubermanLab #Health #Masculinity Disclaimer & Disclosures: https://www.hubermanlab.com/disclaimer