The Dope Black Therapist

Episode 51: It's Your Grief, It's Ok If You Feel Some Kinda Way.

<p>Been in my feelings all this month because my brother&#39;s birthday is coming up. He would have been 40 this year and I&#39;m angry, sad, and frustrated I will not be able to celebrate with him. Grief shows up whenever it feels like it. There&#39;s no time limit on grief at all and you&#39;re allowed to feel what you feel. Personally, I&#39;ve been more depressed than usual, however, I&#39;m acknowledging it and allowing others to help when I need them to. </p>

Episode 50: Take It As A Lesson

<p>You ever get discouraged when shit seems to go sideways? It&#39;s really easy to do, right? A lot of shit went sideways last week and instead of getting discouraged, I took it as a lesson on what I need to do to get prepared for what is coming up next. </p> <p><br></p> <p>We are still holding the Black Fathers Summit on August 24, 2024! Please head to <a href="https://www.blackfatherssummit.com/" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://www.blackfatherssummit.com/</a> and register today. Vendors, we want you to be a part of this. If you are interested in sponsoring, we would really appreciate your support and/or donations. </p>

Episode 49: Black Fathers Summit with Lamar Whidbee

<p>Finally! I get to share the news about what we have been planning! Listen along as Lamar and I discuss The Black Fathers Summit happening on August 24 at the Southeast Raleigh YMCA in Raleigh, NC. If you want to register, sponsor, or do a breakout session, please visit: <a href="www.blackfatherssummit.com" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">www.blackfatherssummit.com</a> today! </p>

Episode 48: Chaos Doesn't Have To Be The Norm

<p>How many of you have ever had something good happen, yet you don&#39;t celebrate it because you are worried about something bad happening? It&#39;s like you are &quot;waiting for the other shoe to drop&quot; and don&#39;t celebrate the good thing because of it. You don&#39;t have to live and function in chaos, yo! Yes, you may be use to it, but that doesn&#39;t have to be your norm. A calm place full of happiness and joy can be! </p> <p><br></p> <p>If you haven&#39;t got your copy of Becoming The Dope Black Therapist yet, be sure to get your copy by clicking the link:</p> <p><br></p> <p>https://square.link/u/A9moFUqa</p>

Episode 47: Getting to the root

<p>I&#39;ve noticed my anger has been creeping in a lot more lately. The reality is, anger is just a surface level emotion, so I needed to get to the root of what was really going on with me. Have this ever happened to you? Ever amped on someone and you weren&#39;t angry with them? Yeah...it happens more often than we think. We gotta get to the origin of the problem so we won&#39;t let that anger monster out, especially to those who didn&#39;t do anything to us. </p> <p><br></p> <p>If you haven&#39;t gotten your copy of Becoming The Dope Black Therapist yet, hit up Amazon and get you one. If you&#39;d like an autographed copy, use the link below to get you one! </p> <p><br></p> <p>https://square.link/u/A9moFUqa</p>

Episode 46: Constructive Criticism

<p>Have you ever been critiqued and it didn&#39;t come from a place of genuineness, but from hate and vindictiveness? Yeah, me too. I used to hate when people would suggest for me to do things differently, like, who the hell are you? Recently, I got some constructive criticism that will not only make me a better speaker, but also, help me better prepare for workshops, engagements, and podcasts! </p> <p><br></p> <p>Becoming The Dope Black Therapist is still available on Amazon, but if you want a signed copy, please use the following link: https://square.link/u/A9moFUqa</p> <p><br></p> <p>If you are in the Bunn and surrounding areas, we will be having an in-person Men&#39;s Support Group on Thursday, March 21 from 8-9 pm EST. You can also register for the virtual group on Thursday April 4 from 8-9 pm EST. You can register for both using the following link: <a href="https://www.thedopeblacktherapist.com/mens-group">Men&#39;s Group — G Squared Counseling and Consulting Services (thedopeblacktherapist.com)</a> </p>

Episode 45: You Never Know...

<p>It&#39;s been a year since the release of my book, Becoming The Dope Black Therapist. Who would&#39;ve thought I&#39;d become an author, much less write something that would help others? Turns out, my book did just that! After speaking at a conference I heard from two people who told me how my story helped them through some tough times...chill bumps even thinking about it. You never know the impact you&#39;ll have on someone...until you do.</p> <p><br></p> <p>If you would like an autographed copy of the book, click the link below:</p> <p><br></p> <p><a href="https://square.link/u/A9moFUqa" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferer">https://square.link/u/A9moFUqa</a></p> <p><br></p> <p>If you or someone you or someone you know have had thoughts of suicide or self-harm, please dial 988 or visit the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline at <a href="https://988lifeline.org/">988 Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline - Call. Text. Chat. (988lifeline.org)</a> </p>

Episode 44: Do That Shit Anyway

<p>Man, I had a whole different episode planned and I was moved this morning to go back to the drawing board...this is what happened and I&#39;m proud of how it turned out. Remember, you are loved, you are valued, and you are dope as hell! </p>

Episode 43: Show Up For Yourself

<p>Have you ever felt like you&#39;ve forgotten how to show up for yourself? It&#39;s really easy to do that for others but when it comes to us, it&#39;s like it&#39;s a problem! I&#39;ve gotten away from showing up for myself and it&#39;s time to change all of that shit. Day by day, I&#39;m doing the things that I know that I need to do for me so that I can be in the best place possible for success. I hope you are doing the same because you are loved, you are valued, you are dope as hell, and you are more than worth it! </p>

Episode 42: Go shawty, it's my birthday!

<p>Help me celebrate my birthday! Go head and get you a copy of &quot;Becoming The Dope Black Therapist&quot; on Amazon or if you want an autographed copy, follow the link: <a href="https://square.link/u/oabxxSoe?src=sheet" target="_blank">https://square.link/u/oabxxSoe?src=sheet</a> Remember, you are loved, you are valued, and you are dope as hell! </p>

Episode 41: New Year, Same Me

<p>Happy New Year!!! Thanks for rocking with me so far and I hope you continue to do so! The words of the year for me are exploration and discovery. What are some of your words for the year? If you haven&#39;t picked up your copy of Becoming The Dope Black Therapist yet, please head to amazon and get you a copy. If you want an autographed copy, hit me up at bharris@thedopeblacktherapist and I got you! Also, please checkout the YouTube page <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCqxuJVL9zXedR9Apcj_bIw">The Dope Black Therapist - YouTube</a> </p>

We made it to 40 episodes!!!!

Wow, it’s hard to believe I have recorded 40 episodes of this podcast! Thank you all so much for rocking with me! I’m reporting from Lisbon, Portugal as part of a retreat that I’m on for therapists and entrepreneurs. After this episode, I’ll be taking a little hiatus just to recharge and give you all better content for the next season. Drop me a message on my IG @the_dopeblacktherapist and let me know what you’d like covered, addressed, or if you’d like to be a guest! Also, if you haven’t gotten your copy of Becoming The Dope Black Therapist, go ahead and head to Amazon and get you a copy! You’re loved, you’re valued, and you’re dope as hell! See you soon!

Episode 39: Dating…I don’t like it!

We all have stories about dating; good bad, horrible, indifferent. Honestly, I don’t like it, yet I know if I’m gonna find my person, I gotta do it. Listen as I navigate the dating world. Hit me up and tell me your dating stories too at bharris@thedopeblacktherapist.com. Also, what topics would you like to hear about on the podcast?

Episode 38: Be Your Biggest Cheerleader!

Have you ever thought that you weren’t good enough? Have you ever sought external validation from others in hopes they would acknowledge your success? I definitely understand where you’re coming from! What happens when we become our biggest cheerleader? You can be the person that you need to validate your success! You don’t need other people to tell you how dope you are. Own that shit and cheer yourself on!

Episode 37: What Are We Missing?

Found out another friend of mine died this week and it’s weighing heavy. Listen as I talk about the very taboo subject of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, there’s always help. You can call or text 988 anytime day or night. Veterans can press 1 when calling. The crisis text line you can txt the word TALK to 741741. For the Veterans crisis line send a text to 838255. Remember you’re loved, you’re valued, and you’re dope as hell!

Episode 36: Insecure Isolation

You ever feel yourself pulling away from everyone and everything? That’s kinda where I’ve been for the past couple of weeks. Separating yourself from people can be good at times, however, when you isolate yourself from EVERYONE…it’s not a good luck. Listen as I talk about why I have isolated myself and what I plan on doing to make it better. Please be sure to check out www.thedopeblacktherapist.com and register for the men’s support group if you are in North Carolina. Follow me on IG at the_dopeblacktherapist.

Episode 35: Let It Go!

Man…anger is a bitch! It’s one of those emotions we are all familiar with and yet it’s one of the most difficult emotions to manage. Not only that, we tend to pile shit on top of shit we don’t deal with in the first place and wonder why we explode on others who really haven’t done anything to us! You don’t have to hold on to that anger y’all…we can learn to let it go. Listen along as I go over a couple of coping mechanisms, several I’ve mentioned before…it doesn’t help to get a reminder every now and then. Enjoy the episode!

Episode 34: Positive Self-Talk

You ever get tired of talking down to yourself? You ever think you only do things the wrong way or that you ain’t shit because you don’t have who or what you want? This is the episode for you! Let’s change all that shit around with the power of positive self-talk! Be sure to check out our YouTube Page (The Dope Black Therapist) and if you’re in North Carolina, you can register for the men’s support group at www.thedopeblacktherapist.com.

Episode 33: Juneteenth, Pride, and Me, Oh My!

What is going on everybody? Lots of things have been happening since the last time we talked. I attended my first Juneteenth and Pride events and man did I learn so much! Listen as I discuss both events and how they impacted me. Be sure to check out my YouTube page, https://youtube.com/@thedopeblacktherapist follow me on IG at https://instagram.com/the_dopeblacktherapist?igshid=OGQ5ZDc2ODk2ZA== or visit my website: www.thedopeblacktherapist.com for speaker and workshop requests.

Episode 32: Love your people

I lost my Aunt Lacine earlier this week and I’m still wrapping my head around it. She was an amazing woman who brought so much love, joy, and happiness to those around her. My heart hurts for my grandma, my cousins, my aunts, and my uncles with her loss. I love you Aunt Lacine. Please, love on your people…

Episode 31: Remembering my brother Linden on his birthday.

It’s been 2 years since my brother has been gone and it doesn’t get any easier. Listen as me and my cousin Binky discuss our relationship with my brother, Linden, grief, and how we manage our emotions during these difficult times.

Episode 30: This one is for the moms!

Mother’s Day episode celebrating all of the moms of the world :)

Episode 29: Close Call!!

What’s going on everybody?! You ever have a shitty start to your day and then it ends up being awesome? That’s what happened to me this past weekend. Listen as we discuss a shitty start to the day, what I did to manage it, and how it ended up being one of the best days ever! Fellas, we are having a men’s group on May 4th from 8-9pm and it will be virtual! Head over to www.thedopeblacktherapist.com, click on men’s group, and register today! Also, Becoming The Dope Black Therapist is available on Amazon at the following link: Becoming The Dope Black Therapist https://a.co/d/fuidhJ2

Episode 28: Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired

What’s going on everybody? Have you ever been sick and tired of being sick and tired? Listen as we discuss where this quote comes from and how this can affect us. Also, we talk about what we can do to get out of this thought process. Don’t forget to pick up your copy of Becoming The Dope Black Therapist from Amazon Becoming The Dope Black Therapist https://a.co/d/h544hzE or you can come join me at the book signing on April 30th from 3-5pm at Cake Town Bakery at 903 N Smithfield Rd in Knightdale, NC and get a signed copy for $12. You are loved, you are valued, you are dope as hell.

Episode 27: Celebrate Good Times

What’s going on everybody?! I can’t front, I’ve been down for the past few weeks and I should be celebrating! There are times where we think people don’t care about what we do or what we accomplish and it’s really our own shit not allowing ourselves not to be great! Listen as we discuss ways to get out of that. Becoming The Dope Black Therapist is available for purchase Becoming The Dope Black Therapist https://a.co/d/aEinwqc There will be a book signing on April 30th from 3-5pm at Cake Town Bakery in Knightdale, NC. Come out and get a signed copy! If you aren’t following us on IG, you should be: the_dopeblacktherapist

Episode 26: Mental health, Masculinity, and Military with Jermaine Crudup

What’s going on everyone?! I’m excited about this episode with him Army Sergeant Major Jermaine Crudup. Join us as we discuss mental health, masculinity, and the military in this episode. We hope you enjoy!

Episode 25: Growth

Hey everyone! Join Blaise as he talks about growth and what that has meant for him over the past few months. How are you growing? Are you used to the safety net? Listen as Blaise discusses how he has grown over the past few months and what is coming for the future. Oh yeah…Becoming The Dope Black Therapist is available now on Amazon! Purchase your copy (paperback or Kindle) today! Becoming The Dope Black Therapist https://a.co/d/8rmBd32

Episode 24: Talking Death and Grief with Heather Hill

<p>Heather Hill is a licensed funeral director at Renaissance Funeral Home in Raleigh, NC.&nbsp;She also moderates Death Café Raleigh. &nbsp;Heather has been in the&nbsp; funeral industry for 8 years now, and feels that her past careers in the healthcare field and traveling the world as a flight attendant has led her to this passion. The opportunity to work with families in their time of need is a calling and Heather takes a personal approach when helping families. She also advocates for green burial, end of life care and providing meaningful memorial services.&nbsp; Heather is a recent widow and is raising three children along with the help of her close family and friends. Having experienced such a profound loss in her life, she can connect with others at their level and offer support and a shoulder to lean on.</p> <p>Renaissance website: <a href="https://rfhr.com/" target="_blank">https://rfhr.com/</a></p> <p>Death Café FB Page: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/deathcaferaleigh" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/deathcaferaleigh</a></p> <p>To learn more about Death Café: <a href="https://deathcafe.com/" target="_blank">https://deathcafe.com/</a></p> <p>My personal website where I share about grief: <a href="https://www.heathermariehill.com/" target="_blank">https://www.heathermariehill.com/</a></p>

Episode 23: Sara Wilder; Therapeutic Life Consultant

We are excited to have Therapeutic Life Consultant, Sara Wilder on the podcast. Listen as we discuss, substance use, trauma, mindfulness, and a host of other topics. Website: www.sarawilderlcsw.com; IG: rightsize_perspective; the_dopeblacktherapist;

Episode 22: Birthday Thangs

What is going on everybody?! Blaise just recently celebrated his birthday and took himself out on a little getaway for the weekend. Listen as he discusses why taking time for ourselves can be difficult and why taking that time can be beneficial for us. If you haven’t checked out the website, please do at www.thedopeblacktherapist.com and follow us on IG @the_dopeblacktherapist. Remember that you’re loved, you’re valued, and you’re dope as hell!